She called her sitter "mommy" all day today :(

jenbowman

I am so sad.  When DH picked her up today her sitter told him Olivia was calling her mommy all day today.  I am beyond heart broken.  It isn't like she is there all day, 5 days a week.  She is there 8 hours a day, 3 days a week and I guess I just have a little bit of mommy guilt.....having to work to help provide.  I guess this just comes with being a working mom.

::Sniff, Sniff::

Sunndraggon

Honestly, why would the sitter tell your DH and why on earth would he tell you?!!?!?!

busygal

The sitter deserves a timeout for repeating that to your DH. She should know better, IMO that was really thoughtless and unnecessary.

Oh and I bet she wasn't REALLY calling her mommy, she probably was just saying it recreationally.

trapani2be

ds did that too and it broke my heart.  He only did it for a week or so, dcp just kept on telling him no my name is Lisa and he started to call her that in no time.  It is an in-home daycare and 2 of her kids are there calling her Mom so he was confused, lol.

newlywed26

Aw I'm sorry hon.  I know just how you feel.  Not sure if my past posts are available, but I had a similar experience on Friday.  I went home in tears and was so, so hurt.  For the first time ever, my ds wanted nothing to do with me when I went to pick him up from mil's house.  He hung onto her for dear life.  It used to be that everyone else became chopped liver until mommy came, but that totally wasn't the case on Friday.  I felt so insecure and hurt and went home crying.  I don't think your dc knew what she was saying though, so try not to take it personally.  I know.....easier said than done.

eileen32

I watch my neighbor's daughter 3 days a week for about 8/9 hours a day.  Last week she  called me "Mommy"  mainly when she wanted food, or to get down from her highchair, and a few other times.  I would not repeat that to my neighbor!  As I see it I am someone she cares about that is female taking care of her and she realtes that to "Mommy"  LIke PP said, I started working with her last week to teach her how to say my name...I think it is really insensitive for your sitter to tell your DH.  It DOES NOT mean she thinks your sitter is Mommy...she only has one Mommy you are special, don't forget that!

~CoCo~

Ugh- how sucky. DD was babbling "Mum" (she calls me Mum or Mumma) the other day, and then said it TO my mom, who watches her 3x/week. I was standing right there, but she clearly said it to my mom. We both corrected DD that I AM Mum, and my mom is Grandma...

But it killed me. That, and when I'm holding her sometimes and my mom is around, DD will lean towards my mom to go to her. She does it to my mom to come to me too, but wow does that hurt.

 

14years

busygal:

The sitter deserves a timeout for repeating that to your DH. She should know better, IMO that was really thoughtless and unnecessary.

Oh and I bet she wasn't REALLY calling her mommy, she probably was just saying it recreationally.

ITA.  DS calls me "daddy" all the time.  He calls our dog "mommy."  Sometimes we ask his name and he says "Adam," his best friend's name.  I know it's hard, but I would not read anything into this.  Seriously.  Your DD does not think that her sitter is "mommy."

newlywed26

~CoCo~:

Ugh- how sucky. DD was babbling "Mum" (she calls me Mum or Mumma) the other day, and then said it TO my mom, who watches her 3x/week. I was standing right there, but she clearly said it to my mom. We both corrected DD that I AM Mum, and my mom is Grandma...

But it killed me. That, and when I'm holding her sometimes and my mom is around, DD will lean towards my mom to go to her. She does it to my mom to come to me too, but wow does that hurt.

 

Yes this does hurt.  My ds did this to my mil the other day, and I was on fire!  I was really hurt too and when I got home started crying.  What's interesting is it wouldn't phase me if he did this for my mom vs. me.

danandkelly

I think it's pretty common at this age, when I worked in a daycare often toddlers called all women mom or mommy.  My mom watches dd (in her inhome daycare) and she says all the kids call her mommy for some period of time before they get the distinction.

AmyCC1980

Sunndraggon:

Honestly, why would the sitter tell your DH and why on earth would he tell you?!!?!?!

This!  This is something  that she should have kept to herself.  And if she did slip and tell your DH he should have spared your feelings and not told you. 

SenoraKristin

I'm sure she knows who here Mom is and that she's just using words that she knows.  If it makes you feel any better, I've had high school students call me "Mom" before.