Experiences adopting older children?

WendyGR

New to the Bump, usually hang out on the Nest and avoid the Bump like the plague LOL. I've never been into the baby thing, and because of reproductive issues it would be difficult for DH and I to get pregnant.

Over the past several weeks, though,  I've been thinking about older child adoption. I've taught Sunday school, girls clubs, and our friends' kids are older so it kindof makes sense. I like the idea of being a positive influence. I even went to a local agency's website and was shocked to see how many older kids are looking for a family. It was kind of weird, it reminded me of adopting a pet, to be honest, reading the little bio and what kind of home they're looking for.

Just wondering if there are any websites / forums you could recommend, or personal experiences. I know it would be hard, just wondering HOW hard.

WendyGR

Thank you! I love the mentoring idea, I hope we have something similar in my area.

Proud adoptive mom 6.11.09

my husband and i have adopted a 14 y/o now 15 and when we learned of him we immediatly said this is the most important times in his life he needs "parents" to lead him in right path, needless to say he is a very smart well behaved straight A student!!

tunanuna

I adopted an older child, DD was almost 13 when adopted, from Russia.  That was 7 1/2 years ago but please feel free to PM me if you have any questions.

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my sister adopted (kinship adoption) twins when they were 8 years old, about 4 years ago. They are wonderful kids and despite a very traumatic early life, they are thriving, loving, and smart pre-teens! It hasn't all been easy, but interestingly my sister was never a 'baby' person -- infants have always screamed at the sight of her!! For her, an older son and daughter has been a beautiful thing.