My H is totally stressing me out (re: DD eating)

mom2anangel

I think this post is mostly going to turn into a vent so I'm sorry in advance! My H works afternoons so he takes care of DD during the day while I'm at work.  H is very set in his ways and does everything according to "the book" so when it comes to DD's eating schedule he's not very flexible.  It's been a struggle since she was born.  She should have X amount of formula per day and by golly he's going to force her to finish that much formula.  Well, at her 12 month appt the nurse said not to mix formula and milk and just to give her milk in a cup and go from there.  Well, DD refuses to drink milk out of a cup or bottle. I've tried warming it and she still won't drink it.  H is getting frustrated that she won't drink the milk and even when I try to remind him that the food is replacing the formula not milk and that she eats yogurt and cheese and in general she's a good solid food eater he suggests I'm being irresponsible - as if I can make her drink it.  I never drank milk as a kid and when I was 21 diagnosed with lactose intollerance and I get my calcium from other sources.  I just left a message for the pedi's office to call him at home and talk to him.  When I suggest he calls there to get other suggestions he won't do it, instead he calls me at work to complain to me.  First off, I would MUCH rather be at home than this stupid job taking care of DD.  In general he loves being home with her and spending so much time but this eating thing is a huge issue.  I try not to be too much of a bia about it but H is quite over weight and I'm not skinny minny so it's very important to me that DD develop healthy eating habits. 

On a side note, at her 12 month appt she weighed 20.9 lbs and is almost 30" long, nothing was ever suggested about her being "too small" or anything like that.

I guess I'm just looking for some advice from anyone who had a kid who wouldn't drink milk.  I'm frustrated too!

kimby3679

My pedi agrees with your opinion. He didn't worry about not drinking milk for a while because they were eating other things and getting their nutrients they needed. I (and the pedi) don't like to feed DC unless they are hungry b/c they need to have good healthy eating habits. Our family is like yours-H is very overweight (as is his whole family) and I'm not skinny either.

Crazycrustacean

M hates milk. I make sure shet gets dairy from drinkable yogurt, cheese, cottage cheese, etc.

At 12 mos she was 30" & 16lbs.  

RaphSandra2005

Will she drink milk out of the bottle?  Maybe the transition to pure milk AND the cup are too much at the same time.

mom2anangel

RaphSandra2005:

Will she drink milk out of the bottle?  Maybe the transition to pure milk AND the cup are too much at the same time.

 That's what I thought at first so we put the milk in the bottle and she won't take it.  At first she puts the bottle in her mouth but then as soon as she realizes it's not formula she opens her mouth and lets it all fall out.  She has her formula with room temp. water so I tried giving her room temp milk (thinking the milk was too cold out of the fridge) then I even resorted to warming it like I used to warm her breast milk...nope, she won't take that either.  I knew she was thirsty last night so I thought she would take it but she opened her mouth as soon as any got in there. Then I gave her a sippy with water and she chugged it! 

I love that my H is so involved but this is one of those times I wish he wasn't so involved...I would do things my own way!