What do you think? tacky?

scottienme

I have family from all across the state.  While I dont have to seriously worry about this for a few months, my friend is having a hard time deciding where to host this event. She has already offered to pay for food, decorations and invitations, etc. However, no place set in stone that is large enough at any of our houses. Would it be weird to suggest renting a meeting or conference room at a university or hotel that is located in the center of all of us if I offered to also pay for that since she has already offered to do so much already? Does that seem rude? She doesnt want to do a restaurant- do you guys think this is an acceptable alternative?

missdanib

I personally don't find anything wrong with this.  I don't think that this consitutes "hosting" your own shower at all, simply helping out a friend who is already doing so much for you.  I would make sure that that the place that you rent will allow your friend to bring in her own food.  If you do a hotel, they might require you to use their catering which can get quite pricey.

Now_a_Swearingen

missdanib:

I personally don't find anything wrong with this.  I don't think that this consitutes "hosting" your own shower at all, simply helping out a friend who is already doing so much for you.  I would make sure that that the place that you rent will allow your friend to bring in her own food.  If you do a hotel, they might require you to use their catering which can get quite pricey.

I agree 100% I wouldnt consider it "you hosting your own shower" just helping out. I'm doing the invites for my shower and taking RSVPs bc my mom's work schedule is crazy & I love doing little details(like the invites) plus its less than 10ppl so its not that big of a deal.

RoxyLynn

Did you and she talk about the size of the guest list when she offered to host?  If not, can you cut the list to a more manageable/affordable size?

DaniLovesPink

A conference room is fine, but you should not be paying for it.  Instead of paying for it, downsize your shower to be accomodated at a free location and use the money to buy some of your own baby stuff.  I just think it's tacky for the mom-to-be to pay for anything.

hopefulmom

I don't see a problem with you finding a location that is in the "center" of all the guests and also don't see a problem with paying for it.  It's not like you are hosting your own shower.  Another thing you can look into is if someone lives central and has access to a community room associated with their HOA.  Also, we found a couple of really nice Senior Centers (sounds funny) that were defintely affordable ($50).  We have one in my "village" and it holds about 125 people.  It is very nice...carpeted, open, etc.  A friend of mine had her shower there and I was shocked at how nice it was (no old couches sitting around, etc).  Guess I didn't expect a senior center to be like that.  lol  Good luck.

northtamarack

hopefulmom:

I don't see a problem with you finding a location that is in the "center" of all the guests and also don't see a problem with paying for it.  It's not like you are hosting your own shower.  Another thing you can look into is if someone lives central and has access to a community room associated with their HOA.  Also, we found a couple of really nice Senior Centers (sounds funny) that were defintely affordable ($50).  We have one in my "village" and it holds about 125 people.  It is very nice...carpeted, open, etc.  A friend of mine had her shower there and I was shocked at how nice it was (no old couches sitting around, etc).  Guess I didn't expect a senior center to be like that.  lol  Good luck.

I agree with this.  There are lots of places that you could have a shower: at a church, fire hall, community center, etc.  These are generally cheaper options, but can be just as nice.  GL!

PurpleK26

I think your idea sounds great!

TulipsAndChampagne

I do not think that helping out it tacky. If you do go with a university location, make sure that there is parking nearby. I know that the college I went to, the event areas were all on the center of the campus...about a mile-ish walk from the parking garage. There is no way that some of the older guests could get there on foot. (It was also a very hilly campus)

funnibaby

I think that is a nice compromise.  How many people are you expecting? Sounds big if you need to move to someplace larger than a house.

Heather