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DA-If we are in one state and BM is in another

mathgal1025mathgal1025 member
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What set of rules are followed with respect to BM changing her mind?  I know our state MD has a 30 day rule which really scares me whereas some states have only 24 hours. 
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Re: DA-If we are in one state and BM is in another

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    I believe it's the rules of the state she's in.

    We're in PA, and our agency works in several states. The shortest timeframe is 72 hours, the longest is 30 days. We have no idea what state she'll be in, or how long she'll have to change her mind. It's one of the risks we're willing to take.

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  • Amy720Amy720
    It's up to the state the baby is born in not necessarily the state she is in.  Sometimes agencies will bring the mother to another state that the agency is located in.  In our DA, we are in GA, but the baby was born in TX.  In GA, there's a 10 day waiting period, but in TX when she signs the TPR after 48 hours, she can't change her mind.  We were very glad of this because she signed it right before she left the hospital so when we left the hospital with Ben she couldn't change her mind.
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  • PSU-NCBridePSU-NCBride
    Ditto that it is the state the baby is born. However, we were told that if the BM can sign some sort of paperwork stating that they will go by the adoptive parent's state requirements if they choose to. Ex: Birth state has a 30 day waiting period but adoptive parent state has 24 hours. Why a BM would do that, I'm not sure, though...
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  • mathgal1025mathgal1025 member
    Thanks ladies!  I'm sorry if I have dumb questions. I'm new to this but I'm getting the Adoption for dummies book after I can dig myself out of this snow storm we got here in Baltimore!
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  • lisanjaylisanjay

    No question is dumb. Adoption has so many varying "rules" mainly because each state has their own regulations etc...

    The Bmom of our daughter couldn't sign papers until 72 hours after birth. Then she had 96 more hours where she could change her mind for any reason. So basically 7 days. But then she had another 30 days to change her mind but she would have had to prove fraud or coercion. This was the rule in her state. Our breaths were let out a little bit more with each step.

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