Everyone is driving me bonkers!

murfygirl

People who keep asking me if I am ready. As ready as I will ever be for Monday! Or a friend who has 3 kids but yet tells me every day to get my sleep now! She told me yesterday to try and sleep all day Sunday yeah because between being so nervous and excited I will be able to sleep all day and night good plan!

When I first got pregnant I told my best friend and said ha you can come coach me but then never brought it up again. Well apparently she really took it to heart but I never worried about it because I figured I would go into labor on my own and she wouldn't make it since she lives 2 hours away. Well now that everyone knows I am being induced on Monday she has asked for the day off and plans on coming down. And I really don't want her in the room! She is miss perfect who never lets anyone see her at her worst so why should she get to see me at my worst?

DH is all upset and doesn't want her in the room either because he hates how perfect she is and he keeps telling me just grow a set and tell her no. Yeah easier said than done!

::runs off to scratch belly and cry::

chelsearosehicks

hercules03:

Tell her hospital limits visitors to family only b/c of H1N1... and/or limit of visitors in room to 1 or 2 and there won't be room for her!  Big fat bummerzzz.

 I was thinking the same thing. Blame it on the doctor or hospital regulations.

Melissa & Eddie

::Hugs::

Sorry your having to deal with so much instead of just being able to enjoy the moment to come.  I too am sick of hearing the whole you don't know what tired is...get your sleep now, blah, blah, blah.  I would tell your friend if you've changed your mind so your not resentlful later.  She may not like it but if she's a true friend she'll understand. 

rhannan

I'm so sorry! Sounds frustrating. Good luck on Monday!

I posted earlier today about my BFF, she wanted to come to the hospital too (actually she TOLD me, she never asked) and has been nonstop calling and texting all day wanting updates. I tried to be nice and asked for a little time to myself and with DH until LO arrives and that she could come visit the hospital after LO is born and now she's mad. I asked for advice and the other ladies here were great--and I think appropriate for you as well--is that your friend needs to respect your decisions about who will be in the delivery room. You don't want her there, DH doesn't want her there--so she needs to deal and she doesn't get to be there. It sounds as if having her there would disappoint DH and stress you out. Be nice about it--but tell her she can come visit AFTER LO is born. GL!!

 

mishee10

Maybe just tell her you really want her there (after the baby is born), but after going thru pregnancy etc, the only person you want in the room is DH. Now if I could only tell my mom and sister that. LOL... I think if your honest with her she will totally understand.  Maybe she is under the assumption you want her there still?

ToBeFrank

I don't understand why people feel the need to lie, just tell the truth.

I don't want anyone but DH there.

Sorry, I won't be comfortable with that.

Thanks for wanting to support me but I really feel that birth is private. 

Or any other variation works.

There's no need to stress and cry about it.

aocain02@yahoo.com

Good luck on Monday!!!  Tell your friend that you and your DH have been practicing and think you can handle labor and that since your being induced it may be a long process.  Or you can just blame the hospital.  You should have the labor you want to have.

murfygirl

I know I am just emotional and stressed! I just feel like people get pushy when it is MY LABOR AND DELIVERY and I have a hard time standing up to them!

anabell0920

ToBeFrank:

I don't understand why people feel the need to lie, just tell the truth.

I don't want anyone but DH there.

Sorry, I won't be comfortable with that.

Thanks for wanting to support me but I really feel that birth is private. 

Or any other variation works.

There's no need to stress and cry about it.

This EXACTLY.

anabell0920

murfygirl:

I know I am just emotional and stressed! I just feel like people get pushy when it is MY LABOR AND DELIVERY and I have a hard time standing up to them!

Sorry to say but they are being pushy because you are NOT standing up to them. Lay down the law you said it yourself it's YOUR labor and delivery. If someone wants to get upset let them. THEIR problem you just concentrate on monday and tell anyone that is upset to shove it.

murfygirl

anabell0920:

ToBeFrank:

I don't understand why people feel the need to lie, just tell the truth.

I don't want anyone but DH there.

Sorry, I won't be comfortable with that.

Thanks for wanting to support me but I really feel that birth is private. 

Or any other variation works.

There's no need to stress and cry about it.

This EXACTLY.

I would but my sister is going to be in the room. I guess I should have dealt with it a while ago but I ignored it and now the time is here. 

anabell0920

murfygirl:

anabell0920:

ToBeFrank:

I don't understand why people feel the need to lie, just tell the truth.

I don't want anyone but DH there.

Sorry, I won't be comfortable with that.

Thanks for wanting to support me but I really feel that birth is private. 

Or any other variation works.

There's no need to stress and cry about it.

This EXACTLY.

I would but my sister is going to be in the room. I guess I should have dealt with it a while ago but I ignored it and now the time is here. 

Then change the words to I only want dh and my sister there. It's not hard you just need to be honest. The longer you let it go the more it is gonna eat you up. Honestly just call her up and tell her. It will feel like a huge weight off your shoulders and like I said you can concentrate on what you need to not this. And if she gets p*ssy let her it's a special and important time in your life your needs need to be met first.

murfygirl

anabell0920:

murfygirl:

anabell0920:

ToBeFrank:

I don't understand why people feel the need to lie, just tell the truth.

I don't want anyone but DH there.

Sorry, I won't be comfortable with that.

Thanks for wanting to support me but I really feel that birth is private. 

Or any other variation works.

There's no need to stress and cry about it.

This EXACTLY.

I would but my sister is going to be in the room. I guess I should have dealt with it a while ago but I ignored it and now the time is here. 

Then change the words to I only want dh and my sister there. It's not hard you just need to be honest. The longer you let it go the more it is gonna eat you up. Honestly just call her up and tell her. It will feel like a huge weight off your shoulders and like I said you can concentrate on what you need to not this. And if she gets p*ssy let her it's a special and important time in your life your needs need to be met first.

You're right! I need to hear that some times!

anabell0920

Good! Now go call or else I am gonna start being pushy d*mnit!