for those who aren't super hip on visitor's asap...?

Smootchy

when are you asking people to come?

As of now, we are set for a c-section thursday the 11th at 10:30am. FIL wants VERY badly to be there ASAP. But that's not what WE want... So when do you tell people it's ok to come up? I told MIL what day&time everything was set and after hubby was like, Dang, you should'da told them 10:30 PM so they don't try to come up too soon. 

If it's at 10:30am, hopefully be back in recovery by..Noon? Bond, bf... Maybe visitor's at 4 or 5? Or just wait till next day? What do you think??

chelsearosehicks

I would find out what your hospital's H1N1 policy is first. Then if you want, you can just tell people that the hospital won't let them be there until ...., whichever time you want. My mom and dad will be able to visit  but other than that I am having everyone else wait until I get home.

Worcbride

my csection is at noon;  I told my parents they can bring DD up after work/dinner;  everyone else can come the next day;  when I had DD everyone came w/in hours and cuz of that I didnt take my pain meds;  8 hrs later I was in so much pain, hadnt slept (had DD at 12am, got to my room at 3am, had a reaction to the meds so didnt sleep, and people started showing up 1st thing when it was light out).  I ended up breaking out crying by dinner (which is not like me);  so this time, everyone can come the next day.  I want the 1st day to be me, DH, DD, DS and my parents.  DH is even considering having DD come the next day too but we'll see/I'm a SAHM and am not away from her alot....

Worcbride

chelsearosehicks:

I would find out what your hospital's H1N1 policy is first. Then if you want, you can just tell people that the hospital won't let them be there until ...., whichever time you want. My mom and dad will be able to visit  but other than that I am having everyone else wait until I get home.

alot of the hosps are lifting it now--mine lifted last wk

veronica.tanner

I wish my hospital would lift their H1N1 policy so DS can come visit, he's 11.

Either way, my family is planning on being there the entire time. They want to know immediately when I go to the hospital so they can go and wait there. I don't exactly want that, but haven't told them. I don't know what to say or how to say it. It's going to be hard, but I think I will just wait and let DH tell them after I have the baby that they need to continue to wait because I want bonding time.

Mrs Kittle

I had a scheduled CS and I had only my parents and IL at the hospital for visits. We did not allow anyone to see us until we were in our over night room and then asked they only stay a few minutes the first night (the meet and greet, hold DD, then out!) The second day (my CS was late afternoon so we were only really there for 1.5 days) the IL came for about 30min before lunch then my parents came for an hour later afternoon and then back for dinner. We asked for only family once we arrived home (my grandmother was literally on our doorstep when we got home....I will not do this next time. When we got home I wanted another shower (it was 100* here that day) and needed to nurse DD and wanted to change clothes but didnt have time for anything...DD was upset & crying from starvation by the time Granny left. I invited friends to come the second day we were home and just asked people to text/call the day they wanted to come and that I'd get back to them as soon as I could.

 with a CS, it's honestly going to depend on your recovery when you want guests. I had no pain (ever...I'm a freak of nature I know) so I was ok with visitors right when we got home, for the most part. But if you're in a lot of pain, you may want a few hours to get settled, cleaned up, and maybe nurse and take a pain pill...before the heards of friends/family come flying in your front door. It's more controlled at the hospital because people dont feel as inclined to 'overstay their welcome' so to speak.

GL! Enjoy every minute you have with LO in those first few days/weeks and NEVER feel bad about needing time alone and asking guests to 'not stay too long' (saying you need to feed the baby always works!)

dunvilles

Looking back, I wish I would have been more firm and told people to give us more time! FIL INSISTED on being at the hospital while I was in labor and stayed around after birth until 11pm... I was SO tired... Plus it was awkward trying to learn how to BF my son & when I had to get up to use the restroom...

If I were you, I'd wait until the next day to have visitors...

jessface926

I've decided not to have visitors at the hospital as all. After being there over night a few weeks ago for PTL, I realized just how chaotic and unfamiliar it all is. Then add a new little baby that you'll be trying to learn how to feed and bond with.. I would just rather not have people interrupt that. Its only a couple of days. I guess I might consider family the next day or 2 days after if I were having a Csection like you, just because you'll be there longer. 

Honestly though, its an experience that really only happens once in your whole life, so call the shots exactly how you want it to happen. I really doubt you'll regret saying no. They'll get over it and they'll have plenty of time after youre out of the hospital.