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Doula's

Athena5692Athena5692 member
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So DH's work has decided that April is a great time to send him on business trips.  Since I'm due April 5th he's contacted a couple doula's for interviews.  Anyone else hired a doula for help at home after the birth?  Also, there is only one that can do overnights, with it just being me at home, do you think she would be a better option?

Any information you ladies have on this subject would be greatly appreciated.

TIA!

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  • PurpleK26PurpleK26 member

    Honestly, I wouldn't do this. Isn't there a mom, sister, friend who could stay with you, or that you could stay with, while DH is gone?

    With a doula, no matter what you want her for, you really need to make sure that they are on the same page with you when it comes to how you want things to go. I have a friend who's a doula and I could NEVER have her as mine. She thinks that her way is the only 'right way' to do labor, delivery, and care for LO. She's very opinionated about it and very vocal about it.

    Just make sure that everything is 'out there' before committing to it! 

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  • sassafras007sassafras007 member
    We are having someone who is a doula in training help us. She does not charge becasue she is not certified yet. I am just having her help with the birth and then my mom will be coming into town. It seems to me that there are lots of options with doulas and they all offer something a little bit different...
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  • NcarolinabrideNcarolinabride
    that is true, it's important to actually interview several and hire the one that is most your style and you are most comfortable with. I would prefer someone who can help during the day. Are you planning on breastfeeding, b/c then they can only help so much during the night. I really wanted to make sure to check on my baby every few hours, so I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving that up to someone else, other than DH. Any extra help is wonderful, I would just want to keep an eye on things, and easier to do that during the day. 
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  • Athena5692Athena5692 member

    No there aren't any options when it comes to friends or family to help out, which is why we've gone this route.  I didn't really think about wanting to do things their way, since we're paying them you think they'd do things our way, so thanks for the heads up.

     Yes, I do plan on breastfeeding, so that is a good point about how much they can actually help out at night.

     This is so insane, I hate DH's work right now.  Thanks for the insight.

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  • MrsWindyCityMrsWindyCity member

    I hired a doula and could not be happier with her. Of course you need to find someone who is a good fit with what you want and doesn't have her own agenda, but from my experience, most have your interest in mind, not theirs. 

    Personally, my mom and grandma, etc. would be WAY more controlling about their way of doing things than my doula. :)

    Not only will the doula be helpful with postpartum things like breastfeeding help, but she has already been a great person to get resources/info from and she will be with me laboring at home for as long as possible so I don't have to go to the hospital and be induced (hopefully) or sent home, etc.  

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  • lpstllpstl member

    It sounds like you need a baby nurse, not a doula.

    We've hired a doula to be present during L&D, she does followup postpartum visits as well, but she's there for support and guidance, not to help take care of the baby.

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