When to tell parents the big news?

kristna356

When has everyone told their parents the big news? I'm just about 5 weeks. I've told a couple of my best friends because I couldn't keep it a secret and had to tell them but my husband and I haven't told either of our families yet. We kinda wanted to wait a little because we thought it was too early. What do you think and should we wait until our first appt (March 1st)?

aerobaby

I told everyone at 4wks!

I wasn't scared about anything.. good luck

LCB34

My parents knew as soon as we have a positive beta confirm - which was 13dpo for me.

I did IVF and my parents knew that we were cycling again and when my beta was - so we told them and the ILs at that point.

Only about 5 other people know now - I am 10 weeks today and won't be telling anyone else until 12 weeks at the earliest.

happy-honey

We waited for our first appt and u/s with DD so that was 9w, we also got to tell them in person that way.  This time we have had our first appt and u/s but still haven't figured out when we are sharing the news.

Shandie_725

It depends on what you're comfortable with. We told our parents at 5 1/2 weeks since we were getting married when I was 6 weeks PG and they'd know something was up if I wasn't drinking. 

Here's the factor I most considered: If something was to happen to LO, would you want the support of your parents? 

MegT21

We feel really comfortable w/both of our families, and they are SO supportive w/everything, so we waited 1 week after we found out to tell them all as a Christmas present, otherwise I would've called my mom RIGHT AWAY. That's just me, my mom and I are really close. I was 6 weeks when our family found out.

veebug22

I think it's a really personal choice -- I know many women tell their families right away because they want the support whatever happens. We're waiting to tell our families until our 1st ultrasound and about the 10 week mark. Our families are far away and will tell everyone and make a big deal of it. That's fabulous, but will just be harder if we lose it, and if we got PG again and they didn't make a big deal of it because of what happened, I would just have a tough time dealing with all of it. DH has told work because he had to, and I told a few close friends that live nearby because we had plans this summer and I needed to let them know ASAP because money was involved and I didn't want money to be put down before I let them know I couldn't participate. I just want proof of life before we start telling everyone, and my first ultrasound isn't until 9/10 weeks.

BridetobeEm

1st pregnancy- I didn't tell them until I was 12 weeks.  This time I'll probably spill it around 10 weeks.  I just don't like telling right away.

MrsLeanna

I told my parents right away both times.  Like a PP said, tell the people who you would want supporting you if something were to happen.  I cannot imagine keeping something like from my mom. 

wearenutts

DH and I told everyone at 5 weeks. We told our family first then our friends. We got them together like we wanted to talk to them about a family vacation idea we have then we just blurted it out. They looked at us surprised and asked really? It was so much fun.

disbride061103

MarcnShaun:

Here's the factor I most considered: If something was to happen to LO, would you want the support of your parents? 

This was our deciding factor on when to tell my parents.  When I was pg with DS I had a LOT of bleeding and was told that I was having a m/c.  I called and told my mom and then spent the next 20 minutes comforting her and then another 10 minutes arguing with her becasue she wanted to drive 4 hours to see me the next day because SHE needed to see me.  Never mind the fact that DH and I wanted to be alone.  Finally DH got on the phone and told her if she came, no one would let her in the house.  My mom was of absolutely no support to me.  Fortunately, my doctors were wrong about the m/c, but my mom's reaction was the reason that she does not know about my m/c in September and the reason that we still haven't told my family about this pregnancy.

skyejo

At the earliest I will be telling my family after my first real appointment which will be at 8w5d.  I feel more comfortable spreading the news after I see the heartbeat.  My bosses daughter didn't end up telling him that she was PG until 16 weeks! I could never hold out that long! But to each their own.

missesru

I am currently around 5 1/2 weeks and we will be waiting until 12 weeks to tell anyone, only my DH and myself know right now.  We have our first Ob/Gyn appt near the end of March.  Once we have that appt and everything looks good - we will then tell our parents, and the rest of family and friends shortly there after.

 This is a personal choice.  I've read many postings from women who say that they would tell as these would be the people they'd want "support" from if they mis-carried.  The way I look at my pregnancy is this - I am not the only one who would need support if something were to happen.  Our parents will be first time grandparents on both sides.  To tell them this information early without even visiting the doctor to hear a heartbeat and make sure everything is ok, does not seem right to me.  If something happened, it would break their hearts.  YES, I may tell them if I had a miscarriage, even if they didn't know I was pregnant, but at least I wouldn't be putting them through the ups and downs so early on.  It doesn't seem right to me at all.

There are many, many months of excitement to come.  And you can never tell people for the first time again... it's more exciting to keep the secret with me and DH for now, and then surprise everyone in the 2nd trimester.

 That's just me :-)

js297206

My first Appointment is in 3 weeks and then I'll see how i feel from there. Ideally i would like to wait until end of first tri.

My brother & SIL had spread the news a few years back they were pg at like 6 weeks and then M/C 2 weeks later. i guess their experience of having to tell everyone about the loss has made me a little shy to share.

but like many PP's said its a total personal decision! I kind of like having it as something just for me & my Dh to share for now.

G/L when ever you decide to tell everyone!

mocklerja

We told our parents at Christmas time and that was about 6+ weeks.  I told a few very close friends starting at about 7+ weeks (went out for NYE and couldn't contain myself).  We were originally going to wait, but decided we wanted the support of the closest friends.  We just started telling a couple of people outside the "closest" friends this past weekend.  I have now had 2 dr's appts one good u/s and one ancient u/s since she was having trouble finding the hb with doppler (empty bladder....they make you pee before you see the dr....well that could be a problem!!!)

mjlx207

With our first we told everyone after our first appointment, so about 6.5 weeks.  This time we don't know how far along we are (my periods were wonky b/c of bfing) and so we're waiting until after our first appointment, and possibly until after an ultrasound.  We just haven't decided yet!

djfacemachine

DH called his parents within 10 minutes of me telling him, he was just too excited! This will also be their fourth grandchild though, so it wasn't AS big of a deal I guess.

We are telling my parents this weekend. I wanted to wait until I could tell them in person and we happened to already have a trip planned. It's the first grandbaby so I wanted to tell them in person instead of over the phone.

My first appointment isn't until March.

BlessedMommy723

With DD we told everyone in both our families as soon as we found out (6 weeks). They told everyone else in the world.

With #2, we told our parents/siblings as soon as we found out (5weeks) and asked them not to spread the news this time. We have been slowly telling other family members and close friends. We will be telling everyone else any time now. Probably next week

LMB5804

We told our parents this weekend, because we want them there for support if anything happens to go wrong.  I also had so many questions for my mom I couldn't imagine waiting any longer to tell her!  No one else will find out until after our first ultrasound at 10.5 weeks.  It's a difficult secret to keep so that is why we limited it to just our parents in the beginning.

VTSKIBUM

We told immediate family right away. But have waited to tell friends/work.

audreyf1978

We are telling our parents and siblings this weekend since they will all be over to celebrate our daughters birthday. We'll tell everyone else after our first appointment which is March 2nd

eris1995

Our original plan was to tell everyone after my 12 week appointment.  I got impatient and we told IL's a little over 6 weeks.  We won't be telling my family until 12 weeks.