do you fake feeling great?

jenny_beans

So morning sickness has kicked my butt.  I thought I had a system down and nothing seems to be working.  I have to constantly eat for me to feel ok.  I eat dinner around 6, snack at 9, wake up at 2, again at 6 am, lunch at 11, snack at 3, and repeat.  Some days are wonderful and some days are hell but overall I am very excited to have a baby.  Well here is my question.... when you are sick do you ever complain to friends...who ask how you are doing?  I am normally am a very positive person and still try to be but its hard to act happy when I feel like I want to vomit 24/7.  A friend at work told me that I should watch what I say in front of other friends and not act like pregnancy is so bad (which i just say I am sick--and so ready for the first trimester to be over).  She said I should just say I am doing fine.  I understand that friends have had miscarriages and I have been there for them but I never bring up the subject of me being pregnant unless they ask...i just say the morning sickness has been bad. If you can't talk to your friends how do you get through things? We always talk about big things in our lives and I have been there for my friends.  It just makes me feel horrible that I have always been a cheerleader in there lives but now that I need them.... someone tells me I should fake it and say i am doing ok.     What do you do? 

 

jenny_beans

I am not debbie downer everyday.  I work hard to make everyone happy and keep the spirit up at our school, I am a teacher.  It's just hard to work and be constantly on the go when i feel like i have the flu.

 

Lizzie65

If someone I don't know well asks how I am doing, I generally don't want to seem whiny or bore them with my issues, so I keep it to myself and say fine.  

But, I absolutely want to be honest with my good friends-- and I appreciate their input and support.  Unless I had reason to believe they had a recent miscarriage or were dealing with infertility issues, I definitely would tell a close friend if I was not feeling well due to my pregnancy.

Vessel7373

I feel like the important thing is to pick those few people that you know you can be honest with and share that stuff with them.  I try not to dump indiscriminately on everyone, but my closest friends definitely know exactly how things are going.  I don't know if that helps you, but faking it all the time is not a good solution.

JhawkCE

This made me laugh at first because there was a Reba episode about this kind of.

I digress.  I didn't let on that I was sick because we weren't telling anyone and although some whining is expected, people get sick of hearing other people's complaints.

I share a little with those who know about it when they ask.  If someone wants me to do something that I really am too uncomfortable to be doing at the moment then I tell them I'm not feeling up to it.  I try to keep it short and sweet.

I don't put on a happy face, but I do try to keep to myself if I'm not feeling well. 

marinewifebarker

If you cant fake it then dont fake it. Everybody's body is different.  I was in and out of the hospital CONSTANTLY up until 20 weeks-ish.  If people ever told me to fake feeling great or made me do something I would have flipped out. There was noooo way I could have faked it!

Jess8589

Up until yesterday I was feeling ok and now I've developed 'all day' sickness. For me we aren't telling people until I am 8 wks so I just brave a smile when it gets really bad. Unfortunately a lot of people have told me I look really pale so I just say I am trying to get my husbands cold (which is true). I also have a friend at work who has had some miscarriages (she knows I'm pregnant) and she asks me how I am feeling; I just tell her I'm feeling a little sick but that I'm a tough cookie Someone else said no one likes a complainer so when someone asks you just be honest but don't go on for an hour. 

MSC03

There's a huge difference between biitching all of the time about m/s vs. admitting that pregnancy is hard, but you're appreciative of it. Sounds like you're the latter of the two, so I'm sure your friends will understand.