Midwife is icky - How to request new doc?

MissK8

So I had an appt last Tues where my midwife said based on my spotting and u/s I had lost our baby. We drew blood to check hcg levels for the first time after that and then did more blood on Thurs to confirm her diagnosis.

My levels went up. She was out of the office that day, so the dr. that was working asked me to come in immediately for another u/s so they could check for the baby. Still couldn't see anything but he thought I was just very early after exam or that I had ectopic. More bloodwork on Saturday.

My levels more than DOUBLED! The dr. called on Sat. and told me to request an appt on Monday morning for Thurs for another u/s to look for baby again.

Given the awful roller coaster she set in to motion on Tuesday, my husband and I do NOT want to see this midwife ever again, but the office won't schedule me with the dr. b/c he is technically full and I am technically her patient. What should I do? I just don't trust her at the moment. Should I just get over it or am I within my rights to request a new provider and if so, how?

LCB34

Ask to speak to the office manager and explain your situation.  What the MW did is totally uncalled for and unprofessional.

They should be able to set you up with a new provider.  Just make sure you are nice!

Andys_Candy

I don't think you can DEMAND to have the other doctor see you on such notice...but after Thursday you can switch from then on right?  If not I'd switch providers. 

Beamer816

I agree, you should definitely be comfortable with the person you are visiting. I would call and see if you could see another doctor in the office. If the doctor has a closed panel, then look into other offices.

nosoup4u

Sorry you had to go through the whole thing! If the OB may be legitimately too busy to take on new patients, in which case you might want to look around at different practices and just go somewhere else. It's well within your right as a patient to go to any providor you choose - if you do leave the practice, make sure to request your records - sometimes it take a few days for them to get them ready.

If this was your first experience with a midwife, please don't let one crackpot spoil your opinion of all of them, there's crappy providers in any field, sadly. I've had some great and some not-so-great midwives in my experience, also. hth

Cristine

Is there anyone else in the practice? If its just the one doctor and midwife, I would go get the other ultrasound and then immediately switch doctors. Most practices make you see everyone in the practice so that you're familiar with the person who ends up delivering your baby, which means you'd probably end up seeing her quite often.

losmom

You are in your right to see another dr, but if that dr is not accepting new patients you may want to go to a different practice.  That is what I would do.  Being pg is stressful enough let alone having a dr that does not make you feel 100% comfortable.

soon2BMrsBama

This is one of my personal pet peeves!   Yes, medical staff is highly trained, but it is still a service industry.  You are the customer.  You are paying for a service and unless you are using a free clinic, you certainly have a right to see another provider!  Granted you may have to change offices altogether to get one, but like pp said, you see the office manager I'm sure they will make arrangements.

skyejo

I would definiltey speak with the office and express your concerns over this MW.  I would be absolutely furious and would not want anything to do with her.  If the office isn't willing to work finding another doctor or MW for you, then I would look around for another practice. 

stpetegirl

I fail to see how she is "icky" she saw spotting and no heartbeat told you it was likely you m/c and sent you for blood work to confirm. You absolutely have a right to a provider you are comfortable with, but I think this is a situation of shooting the messenger. 

smbckr2

At my first appointment, the nurse actually recommended seeing all doctors/midwifes in the office at least once before I give birth. That way I have a chance to meet everyone, since I don't know who will be on duty when I go into labor.