does anything make you question

inbetween

if you can survive being a single mom?

Obviously we don't have much of a choice, but there are some nights I just don't know how I'm going to make it through until bed time.

Dd is teething and even though she has 4 teeth already she has been cranky as can be. My dad came over today and she didn't want anything to do with him, and cried the whole time he held her.

I don't know if its seperation anxiety, or if it has something to do with whats going on with h, or a combination. She doesn't want anyone but me, and within 10 minutes shes crying to the point of a runny nose!!!

Somedays I just need a break that is longer then 30 minutes. I haven't had one in the 7 almost 8 weeks H has been gone. Sunday he is supposed to get her for 6 hours and I know the second she's gone I will want her home.

This sucks!

nbjenni

I think being lonely is the #1 thing that I hate right now. My girls go to bed at 7:30, and then I just sit here by myself.

But then I think about when H used to live here, and am SO GLAD he is gone. My house is clean, I don't have to clean after him, I can sleep in the middle of the bed, etc.

ladyaylena

I think about it all the time.  Just this morning I was calling my mom just because i needed to talk to an adult.  I know how ya feel, I'm sure most of us do.

I agree, i get lonely a lot.  But, I have been living alone since August 2007 so I guess I have got pretty used to it.  (though I AM enjoying the little man being here too)  lol.

peeps61308

I get what you mean about needing time to yourself. Like PP said, we probably all do. I live with my mom and I promise, it is not much better most of the time. She still wants to be with me all the time. It is nice but EXHAUSTING!! (which is why I nap everyday I am home with her!)

I am also lost when she is gone, it is so very quiet and kinda boring.

fauxshelley

I would love a day to get my nails done, or go shopping by myself.  The only alone time I have is at work.  I just want to walk around a store and not have to worry about carrying a diaper bag and what time he ate and does he have a dirty diaper, or Pumpkin being bored or hungry.  I feel guilty if I ask the sitter to keep them for me to do something like that.  She would be very happy to do it, but I already don't get to spend much time with the kids, and to do something without them would make me feel selfish. 

CharmCitySmith

After reading this post, it just makes me further appreciate this board. Just yesterday I was at my wit's end bc DS is in the "testing" phase where if I say, "No" I may have well had said "Yes" bc he's going to do what he wants to do anyway. I was soooo excited for him to lay down and nap just so I could have a few hours of peace to finish doing the things around the house I needed to do. But then once he goes to bed, I'm lonely bc it's like I have no one to interact with. I loooooong for the weekends where his father takes him but then when he's not there, I'm sad almost to the point of tears bc I miss seeing his little face. That emotional rollercoaster alone is enough to almost drive me crazy!!!

meghan_marie

Shelly. Do not feel guilty for asking a sitter to watch the kids for a whole 2 hours so you can have some alone time.

We all need a little alone time, even if that means dropping the kids off at the sitters for a few hours and sitting at the house enjoying the peace and quiet. I understand the lonely feeling, that's why I LOVE THE BUMP. I've never had to wave my kid bye and God I hope I don't have to do that too often, but that would just give me time to spend away from home with the friends and family.

achase123

fauxshelley:

I would love a day to get my nails done, or go shopping by myself.  The only alone time I have is at work.  I just want to walk around a store and not have to worry about carrying a diaper bag and what time he ate and does he have a dirty diaper, or Pumpkin being bored or hungry.  I feel guilty if I ask the sitter to keep them for me to do something like that.  She would be very happy to do it, but I already don't get to spend much time with the kids, and to do something without them would make me feel selfish. 

This.  I think there is a lot of feeling guilty when it comes to parenting but I especially feel guilty being a single mom.  It is getting super busy at work and I need to still make time for myself to at least work out.  The only time I have is in the evenings and I have to ask my mom to come over and sit with DS while I run to the gym but I feel guilty doing that and usually cut my work out short.  I am thinking of getting some workout DVDs-anyone have any suggestions??

inbetween

achase123:

 

This.  I think there is a lot of feeling guilty when it comes to parenting but I especially feel guilty being a single mom.  It is getting super busy at work and I need to still make time for myself to at least work out.  The only time I have is in the evenings and I have to ask my mom to come over and sit with DS while I run to the gym but I feel guilty doing that and usually cut my work out short.  I am thinking of getting some workout DVDs-anyone have any suggestions??

Jillian Michales 30 Day Shred is very popular here on the bump. You can get it at Target, walmart, amazon.com it is a 20 minute work out. Though I'm not sure what level or intincity you work out at.

lnbohac

achase--I am a HUGE fan of The Firm wourkout series.  I have DVDs that go back to the late '90's but they are super effective.  I am also training for my second half marathon so on my non-running days, a 45 minuted lifting DVD is perfect.

ladyaylena

achase123:

I am thinking of getting some workout DVDs-anyone have any suggestions??

I have a Wii Fit... I figure if Liam is awake and stuff, he usually loves watching me dance around...I could probably even try Dance Dance Revolution, lol.  Yah yah yah...I know, I'm a geek