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nellie2njoy
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Soon To Be Single Mommy
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This week I will be 17weeks. A week before I found out that I was pregnant, we called off our engagement. How do you move on, while trying to keep him involved with the pregnancy??
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Re: Soon To Be Single Mommy
Welcome... sorry about your situation, that really sucks.
I would do what Meghan said... give him the info and how involved he chooses to be is up to him. Unfortunately, you can't MAKE him be a part of your pregnancy...though it would be nice. Good Luck! We're all here in the same type of shoes so it's a great place for advice and someone to lean on!
Josh did the same thing to me, DO NOT GIVE INTO HIM! Josh actually went so far as to put conditions on his involvement, based on our relationship status. He told me he wants us together and he wants us to raise a child together and it says in the Bible that you are supposed to raise a child together. You know what? The Bible also said don't have premaritial sex. That didn't seem to be an issue when we were doing that, you know? Anyways. He told me that we can't be friends if we aren't together. I told him that's fine but I hope that he can at least be civil to me for the baby's sake. About 4 weeks later he called me crying and said he wants us together and he's lost with out me and his life is falling apart, blah, blah, blah. When I told him once more that we will never be together, but I'm still going to be in his life becuase we ARE having a child together. He lost it. Demanded 50% custody. I told him good luck getting 50% custody because he isn't acting like he wants anything to do with it anyways and that I am getting off the phone because I'm tired of his threats, he straightened his act up and texted me an apology. He told me he's sorry, wasn't trying to threaten me and that he wants for us to be friends. I'm just waiting on the text that says I was just kidding about the custody as well and you can have that too. He has yet to call me since then. He doesn't check up on the baby at all! So, he's still being an uninvolved buttmunch. I'm sure your ex is probably doing the same thing right now. Don't give into the threats and let him say whatever he wants. Document EVERYTHING he says or does. He's emotional too right now. His life is falling apart as well.
Yeah he is doin the same thing, but not with the custody thing. He tells me things like he thinks the baby is goin to bring us back together and that he still loves me, stuff like that. But what makes him really upset it that im not dating, but talking to another guy and the guy really wants to be there for me and the baby. So now my ex is worried that someone is goin to talk his place as daddy.
Girl. Why in the world are you telling him that you are interested in someone else? Keep that to yourself. He isn't a part of your life anymore, he is only a part of that baby's life. Your business is your business. If he knows you are dating/potentially dating someone else, he will make your life a living hell. Trust me, guys are strange like that.
Gotcha. That is totally understandable.