Rights.

n.gallihugh

I just found out that in Missouri, the father can't sign over his rights, even if he doesn't want anything to do with the child.

I find this stupid, he probably won't pay child support anyways, and why keep things attached if he doesn't want to, and it could truly affect DC.

BostonGayGal

The public interest is for the child to have access to support/inheritance rights.  State law can be wacky and states have different names for things, but ask an attorney whether it is possible for you to seek a surrender or whether there is anything else that can be done to limit his rights.  This can only be done in abuse situations. 

*edit: I hadn't taken into account that you hadn't given birth yet (early morning). If you KNOW you will never seek support from him you can leave the birth certificate blank.  He could still take a test to acknowledge his paternity in the future.

xcjen06

lilcyndiluwho:

I don't know of anystate where a parent can sign over their rights unless there is someone else who is wanting to adopt.  In Colorado the only way to be relived of your parental rights is for social services to file a motion to termiate them due to abuse or neglect. 

Abuse to the child or abuse in general? And how long does the father need to be uninvolved in order for it to be neglect?

BostonGayGal

xcjen06:

lilcyndiluwho:

I don't know of anystate where a parent can sign over their rights unless there is someone else who is wanting to adopt.  In Colorado the only way to be relived of your parental rights is for social services to file a motion to termiate them due to abuse or neglect. 

Abuse to the child or abuse in general? And how long does the father need to be uninvolved in order for it to be neglect?

Surrenders / signing rights over is available only in cases of abuse or neglect so far as I know. Leaving a child in the care of the mother is not neglect and it is more than simply not being involved. It is typically the deprivation of food, shelter, medical care, education, or supervision.

n.gallihugh

I've talled to my lawyer, and apparently even if my ex doesn't want anything to do with the child he still can't sign over anything. And I was neglected and abused, so I think that the same would happen to the DC, especially since my ex only thinks about himself, when I lived with him, I had morning sickness bad, and I would lay down all day, he wouldn't walk 10 feet to check on me, he would text me and B***** at me to get out of bed, so what is he going to do for the child, child crying in the other room, he won't get up and walk 10 feet for DC? And DC sure as heck can't text.

SherbieKun

Are you two married?  I don't know if not getting checked on during morning sickness is the same as neglected and abused.  I am sure there is way more to the story, though..  If his name is not on the BC he doesn't have to give up his rights- he would have no rights.

 

n.gallihugh

Yeah, were married, I got emotionally abused a lot and physically abused only once thank god. But for the morning sickness part, I couldn't even get up sometimes couldn't role over and he would never help, but anyways, according to my lawyer he still has rights, Missouri is a very confusing state! I want to go to Virginia where I have tons of family lol. Except for the fact that none of them know I'm pregnant yet.

skimberlin

Same here in Indiana! The twins father was so disapointed! There has to be two parents, so the only way he can is if I were married and he wanted to adopt them or something like that. Sucks!