Guardians?

smcg0011

Who have you appointed as a guardian for your child? Family or a friend? Single or married couple? My husband and I are trying to decide and we are having a hard time. Just curious about what is common and what motivates those choices.

Kalsbabymama

I think you should pick someone who will raise your child with the amount of love and attention you would try to give them. It doesn't matter how you know them.

emilie1116

This is kind of jumping the gun for me since we don't have a child yet, but I think I plan to appoint a family member: probably my older sister who is married with several of her own. There is no one on DH's side that would get our children. Definitely married couple... or my mom who has been single since I was three. I know my mom would do a great job and since my sister lives so close, they could help each other out. I would not appoint my younger sister or my brother -- we are just too different and I don't really like their spouses.

TennisWife815

Well we don't have kids yet, but we are appointed by two people. My six year old sister and our goddaughter/first cousin, who was born in July. To quote my uncle, "You have a nice house, a big yard, and you like pink. She'll be ok."

TimeForAnotherBaby

We chose my husbands best friend, they grew up together.  Johns family and his family both built houses right next door to each other in baltimore in the 70's.  Both moms were pregnant together and they grew up together.  Neither ever moved, they went to school together, college roommates together, everything.  He was the best man in our wedding and Jake's godfather.  He's never forgotten a single holiday, birthday, anything of Jake's and picks him up one Sunday a month for "BOYS DAY" where they go to a game, or do some activity just the two of them. He never got married and prob never will (is a confirmed bachlor) but him and John are so much alike.  We couldn't think of anyone else that would qualify better.

bexie

I don't have any children yet, but I am listed in my sister's will for her kids.  Honestly, it was something DH and I talked about first, and then offered to my sister.  She was grateful that we offered since at the time she had no idea who would even want to do it.  I do have to say though that I really need to approach her again regarding this topic since (as I mentioned below) she's now due with #4.  It is a very difficult decision.  I think you need to think about people who have similar morals/life goals that you have or want for your children.  You do have to think about whether they would be financially capable as well as emotionally capable of having your child.  Do they get along with your family (if it isn't a family member).  There's plenty more, but just what I've got off the top of my head. 

roshybride

Right now, we have chosen my parents. They are still young and would raise our children very similarly to us. Eventually we might change it to one of our siblings, but right now none of them are in the right place of life to have their own children, let alone raise ours.

lilbug803

Probably DH's sister.  She's still in college, and although DH and I are very different, she encompasses qualities very similar to each us.  She's exuberant, goofy, and Christian like me, but very athletic and level-headed like DH.  Also, she has a lot of patience with children and is studying dentistry, so she'll have a good job.  And she speaks Spanish pretty well, so she can keep in touch with my side of the family. 

Pesky

ITA with Kals.  We ended up choosing my sister, who is married and has 2 kids of her own.  Close runner-up is DH's sister who is newly divorced.  We really chose based on what Kal said, paying special attention to basic parenting styles and values.