So this morning I am dropping Grant off, and this is this little boy (like 2.5) absolutely HYSTERICAL. He doesn't want to go to school/daycare. His mom proceeds to tell me it's only his 3rd day and he just isn't used to it. I was nice and commented on how it always takes some time. She then proceeds to talk to her son and say "mommy loves you and mommy wishes she didn't have to work but mommy has to work. Mommy wishes she could stay home with you".....
I just felt it was so wrong to send such a mixed message to her son. Even if she wasn't happy about the scenario I didn't think it was fair for her to send that message to him telling him she didn't want to work, etc. I stayed about 5 mins after she left and he was still so hysterical, broke my heart.
I am fortunate to be in a situation that I choose to work, so maybe my perspective is different...but I've always thought that no matter what the scenario is you make the best of it, and keep things positive and shelter kids from as much as possible.
Thoughts?
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Obviously I don't have a child in daycare yet, but it sounds like she was trying to get him to understand that she didn't want to leave him. I think it is unrealistic to expect a 2.5-year-old to understand the difference between "want" and "need." I know adults that have a problem with this.
All that being said, I am sure I will do my best to tell our LO that he is going to have fun and try to make it a positive experience, then I will cry on my way to work.
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I agree bloverly I probably should have said shelter small kids (since they just simply can't comprehend so many things). I guess I just can't see explaining that to a 2.5 yo. I definitely understand older children need to know reality and not live in a bubble :-).
Grant sometimes screams when I drop him off too (although it only lasts about 30 seconds) and I just tell him mommy goes to work and he's a big boy and goes to school. I've never tried to explain further.
I agree, it sounds like she was just trying to make him feel loved and know that she didn't really want to leave him but had to. He's probably a little young to truly understand but I'm sure I would say whatever I could to make my crying child feel better in that situation.