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::Skimberlin::
You mentioned in one of your posts that you had been seeing a guy for 2-3 months-that is awesome! Where did you meet him? Do you find it hard to date when you are a mommy of little ones-especially twins? Details about him? Sorry for being nosey but I was just wondering how the dating thing is going for others.
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Well he works with my sister and is finishing school. So a bunch of her work friends were hanging out the day after thanksgiving and my aunt was keeping the twins that night so I could go to a turkey bowl with my mom and some friends. Well my sister lives with me and a few of them came back to the house so we had a bon fire out back and just started talking. I def wasn't looking and didn't want anything. We just really hit it off. My aunt keeps the twins every Wed night for me so we usually do something then, and every now and then my mom has watched them long enough for us to go to a movie or something. He has been really understanding I have to be home with them and we usually just stay at my house and watch a movie or play some card game or something after they go to bed. He knows how much I want to get in shape, so he will go running with me every night too. He is just now getting to where he kind of plays with them and stuff. He still won't refer to me as his gf and I know it's basically because of the twins. This bothers me sometime, but i'm glad he realizes they are a big deal and he wants to make sure we are going to be together before they realize. We actually had a talk the other day because of a post on here. I just don't want them to ask a couple years down the road where is Eddie. Obviously it's way to early to decide about that, but he just said he doesn't think we will have to worry about that. It's very scary!!!! My family (like mom and step dad) wasn't happy about it at first, but now that they know him they like him a lot. He is doing something with his life. So I know I won't be supporting another dead beat. I just hope i'm not being selfish. I can honestly say I haven't been this happy in a long long long time though. It has really helped having someone tell me i'm beautiful and what a great mother I am. He has been really supportive!
I think things are a little different for me because mine are younger... If they were a little older things would have had to have gone differently. I wouldn't bring him around them, and even though they are young we dodn't act like a couple in front of them; like kissing and stuff. We are slowly more and more, but it can be confusing. Specially since their father isn't around.
That is wonderful! He sounds very sweet and it sounds like you are taking it slow which is always good! In a way it is good that you are getting to know someone now when the twins are young. This way if it does work out (fingers crossed) then they will have always known him and if it doesn't then they probably won't remember. I am happy for you!
THANK YOU!!!!!! He does seem great... which kind of scares me. I think this way too, but I try not to get ahead of myself! It has made things ten times harder with their father though. This is just a new excuse why he can't come see them. He can't see me now. He is just hurt. He thinks we can get back together now. He makes up all the excuses in the world, and still knows how to make me feel bad!
Oh gawd He sounds like my ex-why are they all the same? It's tragic to think that there is more than one total DB in this world! When I was dating a guy for a short time he pulled the same crap! Don't let it get to you. At least in my situation XH needed to just suck it up and deal because he basically single handedly ruined our marriage. Then he has the audacity to say to me that he won't date anyone until our divorce is final. What about all of the gals you were screwing while you were still married and I was pregnant with your child? Oh, I guess those don't count!