Maybe he'll stop being a douche if I don't persue cs. Maybe.. maybe...
I just saw your post in my thread below. I normally don't like to give unsolicited advice, and I don't know your situation, but I think that unless there is fear of abuse, you should file for support. Your child is entitled to it. And you should do it through the courts.
I have seen a lot of women think that they don't need to go through the courts because they have an out-of-court arrangement where 'he is paying me more than I would get anyway' or something like that. Well, if he wants to pay you more than he is legally obligated to, great! He can still do that through the court. The ONLY reason a man would want to keep things out of court is so that he has the option of not paying. I'm not sure how it works in your state, but here it took me two months to get a hearing date, and now it will probably be another month of processing before they start wage attachment. So if you wait until he misses a payment... you could be stuck for 3+ months when you do decide to go to court.
And honestly, if he's being a DB anyway, who cares if he MIGHT not be one if you give up one of your rights?
Just my opinion. I hope everything works out for you, and I'm sure it will. You seem really sweet and like you are taking the right steps for yourself and baby.