I know this is normal behavior for his age, but I don't know the reasons behind it, developmentally. It seems as soon as we tell him he shouldn't do something the 1st time, he then proceeds to purposely do it over and over and over. Why is this?
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Re: Why does Cal do EXACTLY what we tell him not to?
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I don't have parental experience yet, but from my experience in Early Childhood, children at his age have a short attention span. So, if you say, "Don't put the stick in your mouth, Stop putting the stick in your mouth, We don't put sticks in our mouths, etc" all they hear is what you say at the end - Put the stick in your mouth. So instead, try to redirect them to another activity (just like you did when you got frustrated) or or show him what to do with the stick. You'll have to do it a lot, but you'll see that showing him what he's supposed to do instead of what not to do will make a big difference.
Also remember, he is still so young and still trying to learn all the rules. For all of his life he has stuck things in his mouth. He's just now starting to learn that not everything goes into the mouth. At his age he has no control over impulses (sticking things in his mouth is an impulse). He also does not have the ability to think ahead and plan out that he's trying to test you. He's doing exactly what he's supposed to do at his age. Consistency and repetition is how he's going to learn what he's supposed to do.
Please believe, I'm not trying to be one of those know it all who doesn't have kids yet. Just sharing what I've learned by spending 40 hours/week with one year olds for 6 years. There is tons of info out there on redirection and positive discipline for toddlers. May make your life a little easier.
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