Weird ? - Moms of boys

ExpectingAngel

What do you call your little boy's private parts? I'm not a fan of penis, and pee pee.. well I'm afraid they'll be confused between their member and the action of peeing lol.

thomas&lynn

I have no trouble with calling it a penis.

Maybe you can say 'privates'?

MrsPedersen

Penis...I am not a fan of calling body parts other names. I always called my vagina a vagina. I have always wondered at what point parents say, "you know that thing we have been calling a _________ for the past 7 years, well its actually a penis/vagina."

CaitlinJ22

i say pee pee, but say penis as well, so he knows both. but i think privates works fine. 

johnsoar

When DD sees him peeing in the tub she says potty.  So I just say yes that is where he goes potty.  We have not moved onto penis yet but I think they should know whats its called.

kgb1411

I haven't really gotten there yet.  I remember referring to my brothers as an Osh Kosh when I was little.  I think that I probably came up with that by myself. 

bacala1

"the little thing" lol. I hope I don't traumatize him! He thinks it's funny when I call it that.

ahava2005

I don't understand pet names.  Would you have them for your arm?

 

We call it a penis.  Why make it special? 

LDQAM516

penis and wee wee

ExpectingAngel

Thank you to everyone who answered my question without trying to convince me to call it a penis because THEY believe it's what's best.

mlf625

ExpectingAngel:

Thank you to everyone who answered my question without trying to convince me to call it a penis because THEY believe it's what's best.

So I guess you don't want to hear that we call it a penis because that's what it is- a penis.  

Never mind. 

ExpectingAngel

I never said I didn't want to hear that you call it a penis. I said I appreciate the ones who didn't try to convince me it's what's best.

katydid2007

we go with penis or pee pee.

hamilton.ja

sorry I'm no help, either, we've always called it a penis. i have a friend who works for a sex abuse charity and she said they always instruct people to teach clinical terms becuase if, god forbid, they have to question a child it can be a LOT worse if the kid doesn't know the right terms and they have to really press them to figure out what their "flower" is and all that jazz. I'm not trying to persuade you, just explaining one of the reasons why we do it.

Also, i'm not trying to be judgey, just curious, but why don't you like calling it a penis? What do you call your husband's? I'd just use that same term for your children so they don't get confused I guess.....

firsttogo

Just wondering why you are not comfortable calling it a penis? It is not a bad word. Calling it something other than what it is makes it seem even more taboo.

It is important to be matter of fact about their parts. Children will be more comfortable telling you if something is out of place (ie inappropriate touching) if they are comfortable talking about it appropriately. 

ExpectingAngel

The reason I'm not comfortable with the word penis is b/c my mother (who is 40 years older than me) raised us like it was a dirty word. I know I know. I don't think it is, and when talking about technical things with my daughter I do use the word vagina. We don't call it that usually though, we call it a nunu.

I have no brothers and no father figure, so I never had to call a penis anything at all until I was a lot older and figured things out for myself... just like my mother had to do.

I do not raise my kids like that, but for the life of me cannot help but still blush after all these years at calling things by their proper name. I've come a long way but still have little of my mother's teachings (or lack thereof) left that I have to overcome.

Judge me if you will, but if you had walked in my shoes you might understand. Also, before anyone responds, please keep in mind that none of you are perfect either.

bacala1

peepee, penis, wee wee, who cares. They are just babies. That's why I think we turn it into a cute name. Call it whatever you're comfortable calling it. Why does everything have to be so technical and over thought lol. Don't sweat the small stuff.

howleyshell

penis.

Just penis.

That's what it is after all. 

hamilton.ja

I think that is a perfectly understandable reason to call it what you do. I was just curious what you were uncomfortable with. If you say nunu for vagina then I guess something similar for penis would make sense. 

FWIW, my mom passed on a lot of weird hang ups to me as well so don't feel bad! I was honestly just curious.

lisaroo

We teach DD that she has a vagina and daddy (and other boys) have a penis. Just like we taught her eye, ear, arm, foot, etc. Making it cute will teach them it is something to be ashamed of and covered up. And it is not what *I* believe; it's what child psychologists recommend.

 

scherza

We call it a penis.

DD, however, refers to all genitalia as "a wet" right now.

ahava2005

Just thinking...

If your mom taught you it was dirty, how does not using the correct term teach otherwise?  If anything, I think it would make more sense NOT to make it special.  Making up pet names to me makes it somewhat 'hidden' and dirty.  And I agree: god forbid something happens, it is better a child knows the proper terms.

No offense meant, just that the rationalization doesn't make sense to me... 

14years

We call his penis and testicles his "bits," like we say "let's clean your bits" when he's in the bathtub.  

We do say penis, too, but he seems so little, and penis seems like such a grownup word.  I hear where you're coming from, and no judgment here.

ExpectingAngel

ahava2005- I don't understand really either. I just know it's what she was taught so it's what she taught us : )

 

Thank you 14years.