To let cry or to not...that is the question

BritClen

I have came to understand that is subject is split!

I just posted my problem with my DD and I got mixed reviews some saying letting babies cry is ok others saying its not.

I until last night have never let my LO cry her self to sleep or cry very much at all. and I have to say it was one of the hardest things I've ever done and dont know if I will do it again. But I also know I have my limits as well as my child does. That being said whats your view?

MrsBeckO

We are not a CIO family. We have never let her cry and don't plan to.

MrsF2007

We haven't needed to, but honestly I think that if I was desperate..DD wasn't sleeping or took her forever to get to sleep, I would, but definitely not until she was 5 or 6 months. 

Jimsgirl5821

After a certain age, I dont see what is wrong with it. I am of the opinion sometimes they are fussed with too much and should be left alone to work things out for themselves. There are times when I am trying to get DD to take a nap and I am bouncing her, rocking her, singing and nothing works. Finally, I just put her down when I need a break and within a minute or so she is asleep. I sometimes think her crying is her way of saying, "Mom shut up and put me down and stop hovering"....LOL

mfransdell

To each their own on this one. Your post was really hard to read for some reason, I can't figure it out. 

MrsF2007

mfransdell:

Your post was really hard to read for some reason

lol this. 

howa0155

I have my thoughts...but that is a decision every family needs to make for themselves.

notelizabeth

depends on what type of cry it is.  the ones where he's sorta still asleep i try to see if he'll settle back down.  it usually only takes a couple of min.  but if they're desperate or loud, i'll go see. 

saturday he did that twice.  both times i waited, got up, went bathroom (figured if i was gonna be up w/him, may as well pee first) and by the time i got done, he was back asleep!  go figure.

(edit: i did try to let him CIO once at my mom's over xmas b/c she was pressuring me to not rock him to sleep all the time.  it was horrible.  i wanted to cry.

madameladauphine

MrsBeckO:

We are not a CIO family. We have never let her cry and don't plan to.

This is our view also

 

bchap122

before she was 3 months I didn't intentionally let her cry.. but she was collicky and she had reflux and there was nothing I could do to make her not cry.  The only time it was not an issue was at bed time.  She doesn't cry at bed time.    But once she was over 3 months, I realized that when she gets over tired at nap time, there was nothing I could do except let her cry it out.  She will cry for about 5-10 minutes and then she is asleep.  But the fact is that if I pick her up nd hold her instead of letting her cry in her swing or crib she will fuss and cry. 

whirli

madameladauphine:

MrsBeckO:

We are not a CIO family. We have never let her cry and don't plan to.

This is our view also

 

Us too. 

juliane2004

I dont shut the door and leave till morning.

But I do let her cry sometimes. Sometimes it's because I need a break, sometimes it's because I know she is totally fine, and just overtired. I'll go in if she fusses/starts to cry, and soothe her without picking her up.

If she cries for longer than 10 minutes or gets really really loud or something, like I can tell it's just not working, I go get her.

I mostly use my "mother's intuition".

BlairWaldorf

juliane2004:

I dont shut the door and leave till morning.

But I do let her cry sometimes. Sometimes it's because I need a break, sometimes it's because I know she is totally fine, and just overtired. I'll go in if she fusses/starts to cry, and soothe her without picking her up.

If she cries for longer than 10 minutes or gets really really loud or something, like I can tell it's just not working, I go get her.

I mostly use my "mother's intuition".

this.

I don't have a problem letting him cry.

I have a problem letting him scream himself into hysterics.

KandM05

BlairWaldorf:

juliane2004:

I dont shut the door and leave till morning.

But I do let her cry sometimes. Sometimes it's because I need a break, sometimes it's because I know she is totally fine, and just overtired. I'll go in if she fusses/starts to cry, and soothe her without picking her up.

If she cries for longer than 10 minutes or gets really really loud or something, like I can tell it's just not working, I go get her.

I mostly use my "mother's intuition".

this.

I don't have a problem letting him cry.

I have a problem letting him scream himself into hysterics.

ditto this as well.......if its more of a fussy/whiney cry, then I will let him be and see if he falls asleep. If he is ver upset, screaming, etc, then no, i will not let him CIO, i will go get him and soothe him myself.