Is Letter Writing to One's LO

HeyyRed

the new scrapbooking? Or is it some sort of competition between Mommies to show who loves their kid more or some such thing? The female equivalent of a pi$$ing contest.

I just don't get why anyone would AW such a thing. Kinda takes the sentiment out of it when you share it with the world before say you know your kid can actually read it.

It's kinda like... LOOK WORLD I LOVE MY KID - SEE HOW MUCH?? If I make it extra sappy does it make up for the fact that I spent more time writing it and posting it on my blog than spending the time with you?

Flame away.

I'm going to bed - laughing at and mocking you. 

 

lovesazzie

I agree. It comes off as insincere to me.

mckelvykr

I don't think it is weird to write to your LO, but I do think it is weird to share them.

mavilabride

I like Blair's letters to Harrison. I think they're funny/sweet. Is that who you were flaming?

abbybff09

mckelvykr:

I don't think it is weird to write to your LO, but I do think it is weird to share them.

Agreed. kind of takes away the sentiment  

zoieglow

I think it kind of gets into a dirty business when people start saying 'you could have spent that time with your LO rather than doing xxxx'. I don't really think that's ever a very fair thing to say.

HeyyRed

No one in particular - I was actually on a design blog tonight looking at nursery ideas and it linked to another blog - the seventh circle of blog hell and saw something that resembled a letter to one's kid and it made me thing of all the blogs that have erupted on here like the plague.

There are people who blog with serious intent and drive traffic to their blog for money or the hopes of money. That's a Blair. Then there are the people who write for an audience that I don't get - family/friends/neighbours about their kid. So when I see these types of letters on 'personal blogs'  I think WTF?  Blair wants traffic and has a set style which garners said traffic. I appreciate the intent.

Random lady from down the street who creates a blog for her family back home to follow along and then writes/posts these letters to it - don't get it at all. Is it just a game of copy cat? If so - where did it originate?

Je ne comprends pas. 

HeyyRed

zoieglow:

I think it kind of gets into a dirty business when people start saying 'you could have spent that time with your LO rather than doing xxxx'. I don't really think that's ever a very fair thing to say.

You can not think it's fair all you want but in some cases it's the straight up truth. We've all done it. Why *** foot around it and act like everyone here is Mother of the Year every hour of every day...

See that's what these letters are TRYING to make people think - see what I am saying!!! 

mavilabride

I agree with random blogs although I reserve the right to skim through just for pics and videos =p

SoonToBeTabor

My kids wont need letters

They'll know exactly how I feel about them, always.

karelaorange

This is a weird post.  For many people, blogs are like online journals.  If anything, posting a letter to your LO that only your family will read makes a lot more sense to me than posting a letter that the whole world will read. 

HapaLisa

zoieglow:

I think it kind of gets into a dirty business when people start saying 'you could have spent that time with your LO rather than doing xxxx'. I don't really think that's ever a very fair thing to say.

 This.

 I personally skip those posts when I read them on blog, I find them boring.

juliane2004

karelaorange:

This is a weird post.  For many people, blogs are like online journals.  If anything, posting a letter to your LO that only your family will read makes a lot more sense to me than posting a letter that the whole world will read. 

Agreed. They are like Journals. I like writing to my LO, and yes I like when other people read them. I just do.

Mrs.Teddy

My blog is like a journal, very few people IRL have access to it. I am amazed that anyone reads it at all. Its for me and one day L. I sarted it when I was TTC and used it to document my pregnancy and now to document L's life. I plan on making a book out of it when L turns 1 or something. Its faster/easier whatever sor me to blog about things and then record them in a scrapbook later, just how I do it. To each his own tho.

cabo_kate

I kind of agree with this. We made Leo an email account and I will send him letters sometimes, in hopes that he'll someday get to read them when he's older.

But for some reason I feel strange posting things like that on my blog - like they are too personal, or not for sharing, or something. I don't mind when other people do it, but I usually skip over those posts because it's not relevant to my interests as a reader.

mfransdell

There is a stack of letters written by my mom to me in sealed envelopes in my baby book. For whatever reason I've never opened them. Someday!

mrsxoxo1598

new scrapbooking, lol. i just made my blog public so will stop directing posts to my ds and move towards the general public. it is weird, on a public blog, to write to one's lo, but on a private blog i think it's fine, more like journaling for the handwriting-challenged. 

rinny627

SoonToBeTabor:

My kids wont need letters

They'll know exactly how I feel about them, always.

 

This 100% 

MrsBatty

Ahhh Red, I have always pph'ed you. I have thought the exact same thing from day one.  I find it super annoying and it completely takes the sincerity out of it.  

BlairWaldorf

::shrugs::

I started writing him letters the day I found out I was pregnant.  It was just a way to express everything I felt when sometimes, it's hard to verbalize.  I'm simply better on "paper."  I even write Nate letters in his cards, or on Christmas or his birthday.  If you are one of those people that can really say it to your kid's face, more power to you.  I applaud you.

I'd be writing them anyway for his baby book (& I do print them into his baby book every month).  So I've really never seen it as a way to AW out how much I love my kid, especially when some letters are telling him that it's a choice to love him or those times when I was pregnant & so terrified to meet him.

I do, however, think there is a difference between those that blog simply to AW and make everything rosy & make their lives seem perfect, versus those that blog with their ugly side, or the emotions they wish they could force down.  & sometimes, with as much shiit as I write about how my kid is a jackass or I understood shaking babies or I made the biggest mistake of my life by having him, it's good to reinforce to the public that I do love him.  & I think that comes across in the letters.

People seem to enjoy reading them & Red is right, I publish them as a way to garner interest, boost my readership, & thus boost my market power.  It's no secret that my blog is both a personal "scrapbook," journal, and a money-maker.  & I think the folks that read my blog are understanding & okay with that.

& I'm always of the opinion that nobody is tied down in a basement, being forced to read my blog day in & day out.  If you don't like the content, don't read it.  It's a fairly simple process.  & in return, I don't censor my commentators since I do put it out there for publicly scrutiny.

i*heart*him

BlairWaldorf:

::shrugs::

I started writing him letters the day I found out I was pregnant.  It was just a way to express everything I felt when sometimes, it's hard to verbalize.  I'm simply better on "paper."  I even write Nate letters in his cards, or on Christmas or his birthday.  If you are one of those people that can really say it to your kid's face, more power to you.  I applaud you.

I'd be writing them anyway for his baby book (& I do print them into his baby book every month).  So I've really never seen it as a way to AW out how much I love my kid, especially when some letters are telling him that it's a choice to love him or those times when I was pregnant & so terrified to meet him.

I do, however, think there is a difference between those that blog simply to AW and make everything rosy & make their lives seem perfect, versus those that blog with their ugly side, or the emotions they wish they could force down.  & sometimes, with as much shiit as I write about how my kid is a jackass or I understood shaking babies or I made the biggest mistake of my life by having him, it's good to reinforce to the public that I do love him.  & I think that comes across in the letters.

People seem to enjoy reading them & Red is right, I publish them as a way to garner interest, boost my readership, & thus boost my market power.  It's no secret that my blog is both a personal "scrapbook," journal, and a money-maker.  & I think the folks that read my blog are understanding & okay with that.

& I'm always of the opinion that nobody is tied down in a basement, being forced to read my blog day in & day out.  If you don't like the content, don't read it.  It's a fairly simple process.  & in return, I don't censor my commentators since I do put it out there for publicly scrutiny.

 

Blair, I don't even think you need to explain yourself. I love reading them, that's why I do.  They say what almost every mom thinks about her child.

For those that find them annoying or whatever, don't read them.  Simple as that.

stever

ladysingstheblues

I find them boring.  Very sappy and boring.  But like others said, I don't have to read them, so I don't.  I also think publishing them makes them insincere, but those who do probably don't care what I or others think