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I feel like I'm going to scream.

Josie22Josie22
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My son is so dependent on me. My DH & I both work hours that keep us home with him a lot. But he wants to be around me. Usually sitting on my lap. While I love this a few hours a day. All day gets very tough. And DH doesn't seem to care. The kid's happy, and safe, and taken care of. Who cares if mommy is slowly loosing her mind. If he isn't on me, he's usually throwing things around. Which often ends in them hitting me.

I'm going crazy, and I need a little help from my spouse. I think I'm going to take a trip out and leave the boys alone together tomorrow.

Any suggestions about the throwing?

And anyone else in the same situation?

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Re: I feel like I'm going to scream.

  • brightningbrightning member
    No suggestions, but my DD has been attached to me her whole life. She wants me only to take her out of her carseat, wash her hands, everything. It does get old. Not sure how to break it, though, sorry. But you're definitely not alone!
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  • livinituplivinitup

    Have you started time outs?  That has been a good learning tool for us.

    Do you use a baby carrier?  It really helped me to put DD on my back or front and have my hands free. She's settled and I'm less stressed.

    Its also okay to VOICE your needs to DH and to let DS be unhappy from time to time during the day. DH will step-up and DS will learn better self-soothing techniques.

    My darling daughter just turned 4 years old.
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  • Josie22Josie22

    We do use time-outs. And they work on occasion.

    He hates the baby carrier, and would likely break my back if I used it. He's very thick.

    I do tell him. And he says "I try". And then I tell him he needs to make an effort to pay attention to DS so they can bond. And nothing happens. So now I'm just going to start taking mommy breaks. And DH can figure it out. I'm done doing it all.

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  • roseroseroseroseroseroseroseroseroserose member
    DD has been in a mommy phase for two years :) what has helped me is there are a few activities that she loves that are reserved for daddy. If she wants to do them, she had to ask daddy. (tv and play-doh) also, sometimes when she wants me and I need her to be with DH I just have to be ok with her crying and him having to deal with it.
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  • brightningbrightning member

    imageStacieErin:
    sometimes when she wants me and I need her to be with DH I just have to be ok with her crying and him having to deal with it.

    I soooo need to get better at this. DH doesn't cope well with her crying, but he needs to learn. I'm definitely too quick to swoop in and rescue both of them - DH from DD's crying, and DD from DH's anger at her crying.

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  • roseroseroseroseroseroseroseroseroserose member
    imagebrightning:

    imageStacieErin:
    sometimes when she wants me and I need her to be with DH I just have to be ok with her crying and him having to deal with it.

    I soooo need to get better at this. DH doesn't cope well with her crying, but he needs to learn. I'm definitely too quick to swoop in and rescue both of them - DH from DD's crying, and DD from DH's anger at her crying.

    It was hard. It is still sometimes hard. But now they both know I'm not going to swoop in so they get over it faster. I can see how it's frustrating for DH's but this has helped them have more fun together.
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