Am I just a pregnant emotional wreck????

slucia13

I am a part time hair stylist.....I have 2 boys from a previous marriage they are 4 & 6. I work 3 full days when they are with their dad and my days off are spent cleaning cooking running errands and busing the kids to and from school and karate. I also do hair at home on my days away from the salon....my pregnancy has been very uncomfortable from day one. I have either been sick or have been in pain from pulled muscles siatic pain and a hurt back.

My husband has been very busy as well....he owns his own biz and we are building a house...so he has his own share of stress. I tend to let him off the hook with a lot of day to day things, or holding it against him for not pampering me a little or just taking part in the pregnancy.

Soooo...needless to say...I met him through one of my clients who happens to be his sister in-law and brother. I have been doing their hair for 10+ years. Now that we are building a house his brother is helping him out with the electrical stuff and my husband feels that I am NOT doing my part to pay them back for him helping us. He wants me to give them a break with their hair (i already give 50% off) or fitting them in when they need it...(I do their hair at the most difficult times because it is better for them not me). Because of my back I stopped doing hair in Dec.(only @ home) giving myself time to get ready for the baby and spend time w/my kids....and give my back a break. So he tells me last night that I have no right to tell them that I will NOT be doing hair for anyone for 8 weeks after the baby is here. AM I NUTS??? AM I WRONG FOR FEELING LIKE I DON'T MATTER? DO I NEED A REALITY CHECK? PLEASE SOMEONE SET ME STRAIGHT!!

InLovewSB

Well, I'm not a hair stylist, but I think after the baby's here your back will feel better almost right away. And overall you'll feel better in a few weeks.

It seems to me that you will probably feel okay to do one or two hair appointments for family members after about a month. I felt pretty good after two weeks, and I had a C-section.

You are hormonal right now. Have a little chocolate, take a deep breath... later this won't seem like such a big deal.

katesmom73

I think your dh needs to give you a break.  It sounds like you're already doing a lot for these people and if they want more than that, maybe you should start paying them for their work - it would be much less stressful than killing yourself to pamper them.

14years

It sort of depends on the tone.  I don't really appreciate the sound of "So he tells me last night that I have no right to tell them that I will NOT be doing hair for anyone for 8 weeks after the baby is here."  You certainly have a right to tell anyone that you are planning to focus exclusively on the baby for a while after it arrives.  On the other hand, you've done this before, so you probably remember that the first weeks are insane, and after that you could probably fit your inlaws in for an appointment if you really wanted to, especially if you can do their hair at home.

Without knowing anything other than what you posted, it sounds to me like you are feeling taken advantage of by your inlaws (because you have already given them what you think is a pretty good set up) and resentful that your DH is participating more at home.  Seems like you and your DH disagree on how much they are actually helping you.  Maybe a good heart-to-heart with your DH will clear all this up?