xp: feeling sad and working mom guilt

Mrs.McLovin

So I found out today that the bully in DS' daycare class is back to his old ways. He has been fighting, pushing and hitting the other kids. DS was not punched, but was pushed by this brat. I feel so bad that he is just a little guy and forced to be in this situation. I called the daycare and gave them grief about that, but also about the scratches on DS' leg. He has about 7 scratches on the back lower part of his right leg. I was thinking maybe there was a rough spot on his crib and he was getting scratched when he put his leg between the slats. When I asked daycare about this she said the cribs were metal so this can't be. I asked if she had seen the crib and she said no. Finally I got a little mean and told her I have a kid with scratches who is in a class with a known violent child and she has no words to offer up about why my child is scratched and getting pushed!

 The daycare teacher already told my DH that there is going to be another parent conference with bully's mom. I feel like a bad mom.

mrsgin03

I understand what you mean. When my older DD was around 18 months old, there was a "bully" in her class as well. She got scratched on her face, a huge scratch that she still has a scar from! When I dropped her off the next day and she saw the boy who did it she started freaking out, crying, I felt awful leaving her there. But you know what... after that 1 day, she got over it and a few weeks later was even telling me the boy was her "friend" again. Honestly, although it's awful to watch your child go through something like that, it really doesn't bother them as much as it bothers us and it's probably good they go through it now so they're ready for dealing with stuff like this as they get older. Please don't feel guilty, you're doing the best you can for your child. Just keep on the teacher, make sure they're doing something about it.