Friend found out she actually had to claim her own daughter

LaLaSweets

My friend and "her baby's daddy" are not quite cutting it. He's threatened to take their daughter. My friend went down to the courts and they told her that she had to fill out forms to actually "claim" he daughter. My friend said, "excuse me what do you mean claim my daughter! I gave birth to her" The woman then told her that women have children but they are rarely ever claimed! WTF?? Well anyway my friend had to technically "claim" her daughter. CRAZY

carolinag

i claim timmy! you read it here!!!

that is sooo strange. 

CelticWife

What??? That is so weird. I have never heard of that!

Mrs.AKP

carolinag:

i claim timmy! you read it here!!!

LOLLLL. Works for me! Seems official!

Sam78

That's what birth certificates are for - something is off in the story - either your friend didn't have the birth certificate or the person at the clerk's office is batty ...

ToledoDeux

I think maybe your friend misunderstood something.  If your child has a birth certificate and you are listed as the parent, no further proof is needed of parentage.

philosoraptor

Perhaps they were speaking of the state-recognized title of 'custodial parent' - which you may need to specify when a child's parents are not married/not living together and disagree on custody.

LaLaSweets

philosoraptor:

Perhaps they were speaking of the state-recognized title of 'custodial parent' - which you may need to specify when a child's parents are not married/not living together and disagree on custody.

This makes sense

*Bre*

I had to fill out a form saying I was taking G...maybe that's because I wasn't married at the time.

MsKellDel

philosoraptor:

Perhaps they were speaking of the state-recognized title of 'custodial parent' - which you may need to specify when a child's parents are not married/not living together and disagree on custody.

thats exactly what they were referring to. With DS1, I had to file for full custody because of a similar situation. techinically, if his father decided to pick up and leave with him, i would have no say since we are both legal guardians and it wouldnt be considered kidnapping. if your friend has full custody then its a much different story

best of luck to your friend, its a sucky situation to be in

skoorbnibor

As crazy as it sounds.. when my sister and her husband separated, her attorney immediately filed a custody order. My sister said, my husband left, and my son lives here... but the lawyer said if she doesn't have FORMAL custody (a claim!) that her ex-husband could just take him, anytime, anywhere.

Monkeybuttwhat

That's right. If you're not married or you are separating you need a custodial agreement.