Heading back to work on Monday and depressed :(

embpsu-3

I know you ladies see so many posts like this.  i'm new to this group as of monday.  i am so upset i've been fortunate enough to be home this long but i cant stand the thought of leaving him at daycare and going back to a job i absolutly hate!  What are some tips to get through this?

NicoleWI

It's really hard, and even worse if you hate your job! It's going to be sucky but it will get better with time. Can you make a plan to either find a new job or to be able to quit your current job? Having a possible "out" ahead really helped me a lot when I went back to work. Do you have vacation time? Maybe plan that out a bit, too, so that you can work towards your next break? Friends who could plan to meet you for lunch to help you get through the first days back with something fun? Good luck. I feel for you.

Mrs.Telly

I just joined the group this past Monday.  It is VERY hard!!!  I cried for a whole week BEFORE I even came back to work.  My DH and I both dropped off LO at daycare and I walked out the door balling!  He gave me a big hug and told me it will get better.  I had soooo much animosity about leaving LO with someone.  My dream job has always been to be a SAHM (call me old fashion).  Anyway, day one, I left work two hours early and picked up LO and she was so happy to see me it felt good.  I cried my eyes out that night too.  Just the thought of leaving her again broke my heart.  Then day two, DH dropped her off but I still cried on my way to work.  But, I stayed the whole day and when I got home I decided that the "schduale"/ mom of the year title I have been striving for can wait. I BF'd LO and when she passed out again I handed her off and DH snuggled while I made dinner.  We put her in her swing for a few while we ate and I cleaned up and then her and I "talked" about her day;)  Day three, today, I felt well enough this morning to put makeup on.  See, I finally realized that one day she will understand that I am working & going to school for her.  I want to have the kind of family that goes on trips in the summer and has a house with a yard.  I want to be financially stable so if something were to  happen to DH I would be able to take care of the two of us.  It is the most difficult thing I have ever had to do BUT people do it all the time and their kids still love, respect and obey their parents.  I guess what I am trying to say is make the most of the time you do get to spend together.  Let the little stuff slide.  Who cares if LO isn't going to bed every night at 7.  If they are happy in the morning spend the extra hour...or three with them.  They have nap time at daycare;)

BoxTer

NicoleWI:

It's really hard, and even worse if you hate your job! It's going to be sucky but it will get better with time. Can you make a plan to either find a new job or to be able to quit your current job? Having a possible "out" ahead really helped me a lot when I went back to work. Do you have vacation time? Maybe plan that out a bit, too, so that you can work towards your next break? Friends who could plan to meet you for lunch to help you get through the first days back with something fun? Good luck. I feel for you.

I totally agree with this. Going back to a job you don't enjoy is rough, especially as a new mom. Start testing the waters to see what else is out there. Just being proactive and knowing your situation is temporary can go a long way toward keeping you sane. In the meantime, go to work, get your job done, take yourself out to lunch or get a pedicure on your break, anything to make the days more bearable.

embpsu-3

Thanks for the encouragement ladies.  i do plan on searching for A new job or part time, but with this job market these days who know!!  But i am looking forward to that out!  DH and I are dropping him off together and then DH is taking me to work (his car will be in the shop) but this is good so that i dont have to drive being so upset!!!  i know it will get easier but i think the aprehension is driving me nuts!

kaydark

I am in the same boat... start back Monday and really dont like my job. I know I wont make what I make somewhere else or have some of the flexibility I have now so I stay. I will be a mess on Monday but I have to tell myself I am doing it for him... for when he wants to play hockey, or go on an expensive class trip, or a family vacation, I can afford it. Its going to suck but once I see him enjoying it, Im hoping it will get easier. Good luck!

huxtable

I've been back to work nearly 6 months and it was really really REALLY hard to go back.  I have found some things that help soften the blow everyday. 

1)  Go to lunch with friends.  You can enjoy your visits with people you love, eat with BOTH of your hands, and your meal will be hot/cold when you eat it(whichever it should be). 

 OR

2)  Run errands at lunch.  This allows me to go straight home to DD after work, instead of going grocery shopping, to the drug store, target, etc., and makes shopping or going to the bank a lot easier without DD in tow.

3)  Can your daycare text you pictures of your LO during the day?  My nanny does this and everytime she does, it makes my day!

Hope this helps! 

embpsu-3

kaydark:

I am in the same boat... start back Monday and really dont like my job. I know I wont make what I make somewhere else or have some of the flexibility I have now so I stay. I will be a mess on Monday but I have to tell myself I am doing it for him... for when he wants to play hockey, or go on an expensive class trip, or a family vacation, I can afford it. Its going to suck but once I see him enjoying it, Im hoping it will get easier. Good luck!

i'll probably be bumping on monday..so maybe we'll meet on here and help each other!!!!

embpsu-3

huxtable:

I've been back to work nearly 6 months and it was really really REALLY hard to go back.  I have found some things that help soften the blow everyday. 

1)  Go to lunch with friends.  You can enjoy your visits with people you love, eat with BOTH of your hands, and your meal will be hot/cold when you eat it(whichever it should be). 

 OR

2)  Run errands at lunch.  This allows me to go straight home to DD after work, instead of going grocery shopping, to the drug store, target, etc., and makes shopping or going to the bank a lot easier without DD in tow.

3)  Can your daycare text you pictures of your LO during the day?  My nanny does this and everytime she does, it makes my day!

Hope this helps! 

thanks for the tips.  i dont think they can text me but they do have webcams in the classroooms!