Is is really necessary to stress out a pregnant person?

Dressage99

I mean really, if I hear one more "your going to be so tired" or "how are you going to handle two boys under 2", I'm gonna loose it!  Today I got so many comments from random people, I just want to say shut up! I'll be fine! I know I'm going to be tired with a newborn, I've been through it before! And every time my sisters kids act up, she said "see what your going to have to deal with".

And now my chest is all tight....aaagh.

MrsRebecca

I swear when my friends start to get pregnant I am never going to do the "just you wait" or "sleep now while you can" type comments.

Really, you mean I'm not going to get a ton of sleep with a newborn? Color me shocked...I had NO idea my life was going to change!!

I think some people just like to feel smug and superior and some people are just annoying idiots.

AmyLovesEddie14

ugh.. My personal favorite.. "Are you sure you're ready for this?" It drives me crazy.

Dressage99

MrsRebecca:

I think some people just like to feel smug and superior and some people are just annoying idiots.

A lot of times its the people that have older kids too. Like they are trying to say, "been there, done that, good luck" in other words. If you want kids, you'll have to go through it sooner or later, unless you adopt an older child. So why rub it in my face that its my time now!

mlf625

You know, people did the same thing to me before #1.  "Get your sleep now!"  "Enjoy movies/restaurants/shopping malls now!"  "No more long showers/hair appointments/pedicures for you soon!"  And they were all full of it.  Yeah, it's tougher to do things for me and I don't always get to go where I want to go or sleep when I want to sleep, but it's not the total life takeover everyone tried to make me think it was.  

So while I'm nervous about some aspects of 2u2, I don't let people spaz me out.  We'll be fine.  It will be an adjustment, but I'll get used to it and make it work.

Mrs.Paws

Because you would be the first person in history to have two boys under 2.  Duh.

I swear my sister is acting like having one child makes leaving the house impossible.  And because she only wants one, she is acting like my life will be over if we decide to have two.  (This is my first.)I understand things get harder and more complicated, but I see people out with children all of the time.  Maybe not as much as before kids, but they do leave their house.   

 

MrsRebecca

Dressage99:

MrsRebecca:

I think some people just like to feel smug and superior and some people are just annoying idiots.

A lot of times its the people that have older kids too. Like they are trying to say, "been there, done that, good luck" in other words. If you want kids, you'll have to go through it sooner or later, unless you adopt an older child. So why rub it in my face that its my time now!

True. I get that they've "been there, done that" and totally respect that they know more than I do about being a parent....but for crying out loud just let me experience parenting on my own!

I welcome helpful comments such as, "I learned when Johnny was little that X brand of bottles were the best." I do not welcome unhelpful snippets of "wisdom." 

BBRealtor

I agree.  I never really know how to respond to those types of comments, especially with co-workers when they just don't stop!  

JARbaby

MrsRebecca:

True. I get that they've "been there, done that" and totally respect that they know more than I do about being a parent....but for crying out loud just let me experience parenting on my own!

I see how you see it that way, but I see it (being not to far from it), that you forget so much, but I for one remember the exhaustion. because it never went away! I will say after #1 I thought I knew parenting and kids, after #2 I finally got a clue and realized how little I knew. You just forget to much.

 

llc730

This has been my BIGGEST pet peeve at work lately. All of the ladies at work insist on sharing all their horror stories about how tough it is going to be, how little sleep I'm going to get, etc. I just feel like saying "DUH" to all of them!

buckeyebride107

I hate when people say stuff like that! Especially when it's men saying things like "oh, if you think you're tired now."  Makes me want to punch them in the throat.