How long do you let LO fuss?

beachykeen1723

I'm not talking about CIO. I'm talking about situations like when you are doing dishes and he/she gets sick of the swing, or our favorite: tummy time.

Have you increased the amount of time you let LO fuss as he or she has gotten older?

I have a hard time letting Cooper fuss, which is why I ask.

meldoo2002

For tummy time we were told to start with 1-2 min. of fussing and increase it every few days to more like 3-5 min... then eventually 5 min.  We never really did that too much.  When they were smaller and I had to do things like feed the other one or change a diaper I'd just do it as fast as I could but sometimes it could take 10+ minutes depending on the situation.

At1stsight

I have also had a very hard time letting him fuss. I've brought him with me to the bathroom on several occasions bc I didn't want him fussing for even the 2 min. I'd be in there. Now, it's more about why he's fussing in terms of whether I'll let him go a bit or not. If he's clearly really upset/uncomfortable, I address it right away. If it's bc he's bored or not wanting to stay where he is while I'm doing xyz, I usually let him fuss for a few minutes or till I finish what I'm doing. TT is still a struggle but I've adapted to doing shorter segments and mixing it up with things he really enjoys (song and dance time, mirrors, etc.) so that he is less apt to fuss. I can usually get about 4-5 min. on the tummy before the fuss starts and then I distract him with something else before putting him back on the tummy again for another 4-5 min.

TriciaJoy

It definitely increased with time.

Honestly, once I started to learn what the different fusses meant, I'd react individually.
If it was the "this really sucks, sure wish someone would fix it" fuss, I'd let him go a few months. Struggle builds character, right?
But if it was the "OH MY GOD, I'M DYING" cry, I'd get him right away.

These days there's "this isn't working, FRUSTRATION!" fuss, which I pretty universally ignore (assuming it's something he can do and is just being impatient, I mean.)

Then there's "I'm sad, I wish someone would get me" which gets attention fairly quickly, but if I'm doing dishes, I can usually try to sing and entertain him or something.

Then there's "I'm hurt!" which gets immediate attention.

 

msalinardi@live.com

As she has gotten older we have defiently noticed that certain cries do not need to be addressed immediately (even though they usuually are). She has her "No one is looking at me" cry, which all she needs is some reassurance that she isn't all alone, her "I am tired of what I am doing now" cry, and her "feed me soon" cry, which isn't full blown tears but it is heading that way. These can usually wait a couple minutes and can be soothed with talking and singing. Her "feed me now" cry gets a bottle right away.

TriciaJoy

hahah.. I just realized I said I'd let him go a few months. That should be MINUTES.

Sheesh. I swear I really am a good mom.

Jennyjenz

Tricia, I read months and thought, 'man, my eyes are going.' 

I need a nap too.  LOL

beachykeen1723

Tricia- I love how it was followed by "struggle builds character." I figured what you meant, but I cracked up!

Lavender444

My fisrt DD was not a preemie but we still don'tt let her fuss for too long. She is not a craby, needy baby so if she was fussing she needed something. At times I was unable to get to her right away and needed to wash my hands first or something I would reassure her with my voice.