2nd Trimester
babies and weddings
We got a Save-the-date in the mail yesterday. I figure our baby will be around 2 months at that time. Is that too early to take a baby or not? What would you do?
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Re: babies and weddings
I specifically stated "no children" in my wedding invites. If they have this plan, they wouldn't say it in the save the dates. Not saying that your LO would do this, but who really wants someone crying through their vows? I would get a sitter.
Well if they say no kids we won't go. I'm not to concerned. We've never gone to a family wedding that did not want children yet. There have always been a lot of little kids at all the family's weddings.
i'm writing the post in concern of the baby...not wedding etiquette.
I think you should wait and see how your LO does at the time of the day of the wedding. Maybe it will be fine, but as pp mentioned, some kids are very fussy in the evenings and it just wouldn't work well.
If you are planning to babywear, that is a good way to tell people to back off or ask permission before touching. And you can always just speak up. But by 2 months, I wouldn't worry as much about germs, especially that time of year. Honestly, I'd be more concerned about whether you will be able to enjoy yourself.
I have thought about this too. Personally, at our wedding earlier in the year, we didn't want a baby screaming through our vows. I would ask your cousin, and then refer to if there is a cry room that either you or your DH could sit in with the baby. Or bring along a friend to stay with the baby at the hotel. Even strangers will want to hold your baby.
At 2 months I wouldn't be too worried about germs. If you are, you can always cover the baby's sroller/ carseat w/e so no one can touch the baby without asking. In all honesty, though, it should be fine even if the child is passed around.
However, I'd wait to see what you child's demeanor is first. DS would have slept right through a wedding. If you have a fussy or high needs child. unless you have it 100% under control, I'd get a sitter.
Just based on the concern of the baby, then I would say you are fine to take him/her. I would not be worried about germs.
We have a family wedding also about 8 weeks after my due date..I think the baby will be fine at the wedding, I'll bring my sling and bjorn, and honestly will have so many relatives dying to take care of her that I think it'll be fine. I'm not concerned with germs in the summer, and they have had their shots by then.
I brought my son to weddings at 2 months and 3 months. They were for his aunt and uncle though, and myself and my husband were a part of both. He stayed in the cry room with a sitter for both masses. He came for about an hour of the reception and then left. I have a very easy going baby, but wedding receptions are loud! And not really baby friendly.
If you are traveling and having to spend a bunch of money, I might skip it. It just wouldn't be worth it unless you were extremely close to the person getting married. If it was close by, I would go and bring the baby, but don't expect to have a great time and plan on leaving early. People will want to hold the baby, but by 2 months that shouldn't be a problem as long as you are there.