Wedding rings: it's not what you think.

sleepingbeauty825

I was wandering through the mall today, starbucks in hand, browsing all the adorable clothes I can't wear. I live in a VERY VERY conservative area, so the fact that I have coffee alone is not widely accepted. I noticed that I was get more dirty looks than usual, and I THINK it is because I wasn't wearing my wedding ring! So pregnant, coffee, and unmarried. In Utah. LOL. Anyway, it gave me a sense of glee to be offending these people who are clearly so close-minded. Call me immature, but I just want to go all sorts of places with my pregnant coffee drinking self! Maybe even on a Sunday! Maybe I'll sub coffee for wine! The possibilities are endless!

AFWife1229

I feel like I get this too. When I'm shopping alone, just minding my own business. Maybe because I look younger or something, I'm not sure. But I still wear my wedding rings and I still feel like I get these looks, like how dare I be enjoying myself and be pregnant at the same time. Or how dare you be pregnant and out by yourself. It's ridiculous.

ernlei608

I get those looks too. I haven't been able to wear my rings in months. I actually had a lady come up to me in Walmart and ask if I was getting married before the baby was born. I live in CO which is a little more on the liberal side.

lilitaliangirl

I'm so glad you are comfortable going out without your wedding ring. I wish I could be the same - but I bought a decoy ring because mine is waaay to small right now.

to you!!!!!!!!

ehicks

Should have walked around with color foils in your hair too... SHE'S COLORING HER HAIR WHILE PREGNANT????? ::60 year old woman grasps her pearls and faints::?

Princessn678

This makes me laugh.  I live in So Cal which is super Libral, so  most people think its weird that I don't have coffee or a little drink here and there. I here the "it won't hurt" all the time.

sleepingbeauty825

ehicks:

Should have walked around with color foils in your hair too... SHE'S COLORING HER HAIR WHILE PREGNANT????? ::60 year old woman grasps her pearls and faints::?

OMG you're right! Maybe a cold turkey sandwich in the other hand?

StrawberryAlarmClock

Just tell them DH's other wife has the rings today.

Sorry.....that was terrible, but since Big Love that's all I think when I hear Utah!!

CandiceNT

I get the dirty looks to without my rings on, but come on people...they don't fit anymore! I don't care what they think, but I do feel naked without them. Maybe I should walk around with a 32oz diet coke...hmmm

ran_gonzales

I noticed these looks yesterday when i went into the mall. I know i look like I'm twelve, but still, no need for the dirty looks. Especially from younger girls. like "gasp, she's pregnant and so young"... and since DH looks so much older than me, he gets looks like he's a pervert. We just laugh.

KendraJoette

I love it, it is so funny how judgemental people can be when they dont even know!

sramasunder

StrawberryAlarmClock:

Just tell them DH's other wife has the rings today.

Sorry.....that was terrible, but since Big Love that's all I think when I hear Utah!!

 

OMG!  This is too funny!!!!

sleepingbeauty825

StrawberryAlarmClock:

Just tell them DH's other wife has the rings today.

Sorry.....that was terrible, but since Big Love that's all I think when I hear Utah!!

Hahaha! Big Love is a great show!

melinaalyson

Princessn678:

This makes me laugh.  I live in So Cal which is super Libral, so  most people think its weird that I don't have coffee or a little drink here and there. I here the "it won't hurt" all the time.

 where in so cal?  not oc?!? they are super conservative there! (i grew up there) now long beach... you can have coffee and a drink (even though i haven't this go round).  that's why i love it here!  

asickles98

Too funny!  I live in right smack in the middle of the Bible Belt (Georgia).  I haven't been able to wear my rings since about the 13th week.  I do not get looks about that, but I swear the one time I go into public with a cup of Starbucks hot chocolate I got evil looks and two strangers told me I shouldn't be drinking that.  I laugh now about it but when it  happened I was livid.

jessface926

i know, dont you love utah? someone will start talking to me, notice i'm pregnant and not wearing a ring, and literally not make any eye contact for the rest of the conversation. they just look at my belly, my left hand, and then at the floor. i just laugh at this point.

m00n_fire@hotmail.com

sleepingbeauty825:

StrawberryAlarmClock:

Just tell them DH's other wife has the rings today.

Sorry.....that was terrible, but since Big Love that's all I think when I hear Utah!!

Hahaha! Big Love is a great show!

 

LOL love it!!! Seriously what person actually expects that at this point we would be able to wear our rings at all!

fallingangel_lee

I so feel for you!! My husbands family is all LDS so  we get it all the time from them. ( He left the church 2 years ago). just be happy you only get the looks when you go out I get them when they come over to our house.  

Taylor11

I was ordering a latte at Caribou Coffee last week, and the lady taking my order said 'Now you certainly want decaf right?  Your pregnant.'  Wow, really?  Thanks for informing me of that.  I said 'Nope, half caf please!'.  I think she wanted to say something else but was wise and bit her tounge!

Taylor11

sleepingbeauty825:

ehicks:

Should have walked around with color foils in your hair too... SHE'S COLORING HER HAIR WHILE PREGNANT????? ::60 year old woman grasps her pearls and faints:: 

OMG you're right! Maybe a cold turkey sandwich in the other hand?

You could really get em' if you went to a restaurant and ordered a virgin daquiri or pina colada!  Haaa!

scubaspot

You skank (jk). I am 24 but I look like I am 16 and I keep getting dirty looks from people. Everyone thinks I am a teen mom.

It was really funny when I went to see my step mom at work. She works at a high school and I kept getting stopped in the hall by the staff asking me why I wasn't in class. You could tell they were trying not to show their annoyance at yet another knocked up high school student. It was even more fun when my SM would introduce me to them as her 24 year old, married, step daughter.

Fuzzypeaches

I can't believe how many people are so judgemental about pregnant women drinking coffee! You should walk around with a sign saying "How do you know it's not decaf, stupid?" or something.

LOL

kimisuejoia

Gotta love the 'looks'.

We throw a big huge party every summer and I was just starting to show around the same time. We went to the store to get all the food and supplies and as we got to the checkout DH remembered something else we needed and went to grab it.

Try buying beer with an obvious tummy in Utah! I thought the clerk was going to have a heart attack or refuse to sell it to me until DH walked up and started to put the bags in the cart! She looked so relieved to see someone other than just me there to buy it that she didn't have time to give me the side-eye for daring to buy alchohol...

ehicks

Taylor11:

sleepingbeauty825:

ehicks:

Should have walked around with color foils in your hair too... SHE'S COLORING HER HAIR WHILE PREGNANT????? ::60 year old woman grasps her pearls and faints::?

OMG you're right! Maybe a cold turkey sandwich in the other hand?

You could really get em' if you?went to a restaurant and ordered a virgin daquiri or pina colada!? Haaa!

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At Chili's yesterday DH got a margarita and while flipping through the photos of all of their drinks, I reached over and took a tiny sip. The waitress ran over and was like "would you like a specialty drink?" I turns to her, clearly showing my belly and said no thank-you. she then shot me a dirty look and was like.... oh, i see.

haha she probably went to the back and told everyone about the pregnant lady who was drinking at table 45?

sleepingbeauty825

kimisuejoia:

Gotta love the 'looks'.

We throw a big huge party every summer and I was just starting to show around the same time. We went to the store to get all the food and supplies and as we got to the checkout DH remembered something else we needed and went to grab it.

Try buying beer with an obvious tummy in Utah! I thought the clerk was going to have a heart attack or refuse to sell it to me until DH walked up and started to put the bags in the cart! She looked so relieved to see someone other than just me there to buy it that she didn't have time to give me the side-eye for daring to buy alchohol...

Haha, maybe I will try that tonight, for hilarity's sake. I should hang a cigar out of my mouth that says, "It's a boy!" just to be clear.

KBLT

Ha!  Love it.

DH looks older than we are and I look like I'm 12, so we get some great looks.   

americanada

you should wear a scarlet letter 'P'...i got a really dirty look from an older man in a liquor store...i was with 3 other pp, but i walked around by myself for a few minutes...people are so presumptious!

luckyu522001

LMAO! THAT would be priceless! I can totally see that as a pic for the baby book!

 I live in Kansas, so it's super conservative! The fact I MIGHT have a beer, diet coke, dye my hair, or drink coffee is just TERRIBLE! And I'm NOT MARRIED! OMG! I'm such a terrible mother and a tramp. LOL

I take my friends to the bar a lot. Since I'm prego I don't drink but I will go and have a good time. I love going and buying a pitcher of beer for the table and being obviously pregnant! I always get served and the bartender knows me so he knows it's not for me. I LOVE the looks other people give me though! The "OMG! She's drinking?!". The next time someone gives me "that" look I'll tell the bartender to skip the glass, I just need a straw! I will drink a beer or two but not every night and not even every weekend! Some people just REALLY need to mind their own business!

During my one of my appointments the nurse asked me about my relationship status. She thought I was married (Not anymore) or with BD (Nope). She got soooo embarrassed when she realized I'm a single unwed mother...not embarrassed about that..just that she had said something about it. I told her that was part of the reason my ex husband and I split up so she asked if we were getting back together. LOL NO! Ex is a great guy, just not the guy for me. We had other problems besides baby problems. Any way, after she made an ass of herself she left. Mom and I couldn't stop laughing. I felt so bad for her! 

 The doctor asked me about it too! I told him BD was unfortunately hit by a train. He just started smiling and laughed at me.

Lots of respectible people have been hit by trains!

mrssmith717

My BFF coerced me into buying myself a temporary ring at target.  It was only 10 dollars- CZ and silver- but if it were a diamond it would be probably a 1.5/2 carat princess cut!  It's kind of ridiculous. 

fIowerchild

I love pissing people off in this way.  My favorite is to run on the treadmill  - you should see the looks I get at the gym!

Reblo3

StrawberryAlarmClock:

Just tell them DH's other wife has the rings today.

Sorry.....that was terrible, but since Big Love that's all I think when I hear Utah!!

ecoppins

My fingers didn't swell with this one, but last time I got the dirty looks a lot. The worst was an old woman who came up to me in the grocery to explain how a condom worked. 

Gee thanks, but it was a little late at that point. I did look fan friggin tastic though, I was hot and swollen and in flip flops and a cotton pg skirt and a tank top that didn't quite meet the skirt, so that hot 1.5 inches of pg belly stuck out and I was holding a handle of Jose (we were having friends over for Mexican)  

adamstodrake

luckyu522001:

 The doctor asked me about it too! I told him BD was unfortunately hit by a train. He just started smiling and laughed at me.

Lots of respectible people have been hit by trains!

I think I may have just peed my pants a little....