nbr: is this your dh? (small vent)

kel716

So I just spent the last 60+ minutes cleaning the downstairs-- dishes, counters, tidying, laundry, sweeping, etc...  I also gave B a bath, got him ready for bed, etc...  I'm not done yet (toy pick up, which is easy).  I asked my dh to help with the trash.  He does.  He then goes back to the couch, sits down, and proceeds to watch a 60 minute show off the dvr.  Grrr.... this just boils my blood, and I don't think he gets it. 

 Don't get me wrong, I love him dearly.  He does a lot, including WAH/SAH many days while I'm at work, which many dads could not do.  But.... when I'm cleaning and he's "relaxing" it boils me.  grr.  vent over.  I feel better. 

sistrkate

Sh*t like this really pisses me off.  It sounds like a typical night over here.  If I don't give really specific instructions, and a list, I'm in the same place you are.  You have my sympathy!

brittanyandcj

yes it is. i've been sick for a really long time (since before thanksgiving). while i was sick, my mom came over and really helped us out with dishes and such while DH was at work and i was stuck in bed. the dishes were completely caught up. while i was sick, when i tried to eat, i used paper plates or bowls or cups and plastic utensils so i didnt have a ton of dishes to do when i started feeling better. i've had to work every day but christmas eve and christmas and dh has been off work. dh decided on sunday night to make a rip off of the crack dip. whatever. great. more power to him. except, he used 6 freaking bowls to do it!

and then instead of eating out of the dang bowl he made it in or putting it in a paper bowl, he used more bowls!! monday before i went to work, i did a bunch of dishes. i asked him nicely to empty the dish drainer for me (we have no dishwasher). as some of you saw from my facebook, he emptied it alright. by putting every dish in it next to the drainer! AGHHH!! and while i've been in there doing more dishes and working on cleaning, what has he been doing? playing freaking call of duty. i'm ready to throw that game out the window. that's all he does. if i ask him to turn it off so i can watch tv, he starts crabbing at me. i can't wait for him to go back to work on monday. all this time with him home is driving me nuts!

futuremrs.inman

This is my DH sometimes. Totally burns me up! I get so cranky that he gets to do what he wants and relax while I'm working my butt off. Yet if he's cleaning and I'm on the computer or couch I end up feeling bad and helping him. Why can't we just think like men and men think like us sometimes!

escape1st

I could have written this exact post last night.  I told DH that one of my resolutions for 2010 was for him to help out more around the house.  For some reason he didn't like that idea as much as I did.  LOL 

Schibesosu

escape1st:

I could have written this exact post last night.  I told DH that one of my resolutions for 2010 was for him to help out more around the house.  For some reason he didn't like that idea as much as I did.  LOL 

 LOL I told my husband I didn't want Christmas presents this year... I just wanted a husband that helped out around the house!

cops_wife

I have to admit, this sounds more like me than my husband. But let me tell you why. I work part-time and do all the laundry and most of the other housework while I'm at home. I feel like I'm perfectly capable of deciding when to clean. So sometimes when he's home, I just want to hang out. Or I've already done a bunch of housework that day or plan to do it when he's at work or something. And he'll decide he wants to do something right then, and he gets mad if I don't do it too. That actually irritates the tar out of me.

stillwaiting12

I'm with you! I get so annoyed that DH gets home from work and just disappears in to the office until it's bedtime, which for him is at like 9 because he gets up at 4 for work. Fine... he has to go to bed early, but I don't and I like to stay up and do my chores at night. Our house is really small so I can't do that because it would wake him up! So.... I come home from work between 6:15-6:30, change my clothes, cook dinner, do the dishes, clean the house, do a load of laundry or do SOMETHING around the house until around 8:30-9 and then I get to sit down and watch TV or do something that I actually want to do once he goes to bed. The part that REALLY burns me up is that he gets home at 3:00!!  He could have a few things done before I ever get home so we can spend a little time together because he always complains that I don't have time to just sit on the couch and watch a show with him or that I never get caught up on all of my DVR shows (he's OCD about having that emptied!) Plus, on the weekends unless we are going out to do something he pretty much doesn't leave the house, he's in the office the entire weekend! While my weekends are spent doing all the chores of groceries, running various errands or catching up on any cleaning I didn't get done through the week. Sometimes I want to punch him in the throat when he tells me the groceries and cleaning are a womans job, the outside stuff is his job.... ooooh we fight about that! Plus I help with the outside jobs too most of the time because I always feel bad if I am doing nothing at that moment and he's outside cutting the grass. I work just as many hours as he does, if not more! but his chores only last 4-6 months out of the year, I don't think so!!   Yeah, I get a little fired up about this subject too!

addslove

I'm with cops_wife...I work full-time so when I'm home with DD, I would much rather spend time with her and by the end of the day when she goes to bed, I'm so darn tired that cleaning is the last thing I want to do.  It annoys the crap out of my DH when he is ready to clean, that I don't jump up and join him.  And it annoys me that he has no clue all of the work I do all day, every day therefore the reason I don't have the energy to clean.  This has been an ongoing argument between us and  I wish we could come to some resolution.

I'm not trying to diminish your frustration.  It is very frustrating to have your DH sit and do nothing when you are scrambling around like crazy trying to get things done.  Been there too.