this probably gets asked a lot but...

priya&peter

tell me if you are going to find out the gender of your baby, or if you already know it, why you decided to find out.  Initially DH wanted to know and I didn't.  But now DH says he is OK not finding out and leaves it up to me and I just can't decide! 

knelli

I always knew that I wanted to find out ASAP.  DH wanted a surprise at first.  I personally think it is a surprise either way whether you find out at a scan or in the delivery room.... either way you have that moment of OMG!!!

BUT, I think with our next one we will hold out and try to stay team green!

carasizemore

We are having a little girl and found out around 19 weeks. I HAVE to know these things! I am such a planner/organizer it would drive me crazy not to know!  That's just me though...I think it'd be fun to be team green I just can't do it and neither could DH so that made it easy for us!  gL!!!!

megjr8

I'm still on the fence. I want to do a lot of gender neutral stuff, but at the same time I just want to be able to go clothes shopping for those cute outfits before the baby arrives. We probably will find out but not sure.

ShellShockedMama

I think I'll want to know. I used to be "ooh surprise in the delivery room" but ever since my first loss, I just want to know asap.

OregonMama

Definitely must know.  No question about it.  We had an u/s at 16 weeks that showed most likely a girl, we'll get confirmation next week at our big u/s.  Neither DH nor I could wait until we deliver!

priya&peter

ShellShockedMama:

I think I'll want to know. I used to be "ooh surprise in the delivery room" but ever since my first loss, I just want to know asap.

I don't know if this makes any sense, but I feel like one of the main reasons I want to know is because I will never know whether my first baby was a boy or a girl.  but on the other hand being team green seems like it would be so much fun and provide some good extra motivation during the home stretch.

Eviebee

We found out with DD, we both wanted to know.  DH decided he'd rather get the surprise this time and I'd never be able to hold out for it myself but think it will be exciting to not know.  Either way it's amazing!  Although with all the gender disappointment talk, I wonder if it's really an issue in the delivery room...  just a thought.

daphne814

ShellShockedMama:

I think I'll want to know. I used to be "ooh surprise in the delivery room" but ever since my first loss, I just want to know asap.

I don't know why, but I'm the exact opposite.  I always wanted to know, but after my first loss, I kinda decided that if I was lucky enough to get ku again, I would just wait and let it be a delivery room surprise.  I have no idea why... and I know it's a surprise either way, it was just a gut feeling I had, and I think that's what we'll end up doing.  Who knows, though...I just want to know that it's a healthy baby in there!  

TinaL99

I absolutely did not want to know and DH has always been on board with that.  I want to make sure we have gender neutral things for future kids and I also want that element of surprise in the delivery room.  I cannot wait for the moment for DH to announce the sex to me.  And I have to admit, it's kinda fun keeping the family in suspense and it's fun hearing people guess!

kristinem17

DH was the first to suggest we NOT find out.  I have never even thought about it really.  So after his idea, I started to wonder if that might be fun .... we decided to go for it.  I figured it would make the pregnancy more interesting for sure, plus, it gives so much motivation to make it to the end and ultimately to push!  I am SO looking forward to delivery day and the big reveal   BTW - I am a total planner and very detail oriented, but still managed to create a beautiful nursery even though on Team Green.

shaunnalar

Both DH and I had to know.  So we found out at our 18w u/s.  I am a planner/organizer and I also love the fact that I can say her name everyday and refer her as a she, instead of saying "the baby" or "it."  And I love how our family always asks how Natasha is doing and including her name on presents. 

meggiejo

We found out with DS and will again this time. I am a planner and hate surprises, so I just didn't think I would want to wait. My IL's also all love to shop, so they appriciate the extra time. We also are finding out this time so I know if I need to buy girl clothes or just wash up all of my boy stuff. Lastly, there was so much going on in the delivery room that I just wanted to hold my LO. It wasn't anticlimactic or anything that we knew the gender because we still got to discover what our LO looked like, and that he had his dad's fingers, etc. Good luck with your decision!

katie9136

I want to know for so many reasons. I am way too nosey to keep the biggest secret of my life to myself for one, I happen to like blue and pink more than greens and yellows, So I have some direction for the nursery, So I can shop and prepare gender appropriate and because all of my family wants to buy pretty little dresses or boy stuff. I won?t be having a shower most likely since a border is separating us. There?s alot more I can?t think of right now too : )

Danielleee

We both wanted to find out for sure, BUT baby didn't want to cooperate!  The ultrasound tech at my 19w ultrasound had me changing positions, up and walking, and nothing got baby to uncross his/her legs.  Since everything looked great at that ultrasound, I haven't had another one!  At this point we've waited so long that even if they give us an ultrasound before the big day, we aren't going to find out.  I was a bit disappointed at first, but after a few weeks I got used to the idea of not knowing, and now it's kind of fun!

jen-dale

DH and I always agreed that we did not want to find out. When the time got closer for us to go to the big u/s I started leaning toward finding out. We then made a pact with eachother that we each wouldn't let the other one change their mind in the u/s room. Once we were in there, it really wasn't hard to stick to our original plan of not finding out. There are some days when I wish we knew but most days I am happy with our decision. I decided I might need that motivation during labor!

*shortie

We both want to find out - even though our parents are bewildered and want to keep it a surprise (how to get people like that to be quiet? Say, "oh, okay, we just won't tell you, then!" and they change their minds really quickly!

AmysMelody

I'm just a "have to know" kinda person.  DH didn't particularly care either way and since I was so adament about knowing, he went along with it.

For what it's worth - I've heard that being team green with your first pregnancy makes for more practical shower gifts.  If people know you're having a girl, they will go out and buy girl outfits in lieu of buying off your registry because people just LOVE to shop for baby clothes (can you blame them?!).  Same for a boy.  But if they don't know, they're more comfortable giving you something you want/need than they are shopping for gender neutral clothes.  One of my friends who recently had a boy said that she got almost nothing off her registry at her shower because everyone bought her clothes.

Just something to think about. 

KelleyBean

We hope to find out at our big u/s. I'm not intending to go all out pink or blue with the nursery but I would like to get a few gender specific things.

wannabmommy

DH and I were divided but ended up deciding to find out.