MIL and honey

kellim

So, my DH is from Guatemala...and his parents still live there.  The other day, through webcam, I asked her how she made baby food for the babies she used to take care of.  (She takes care of newborns before the adoptive parents come to adopt them from the states.)  She said she mashes the food up and adds honey to sweeten it.  I almost choked!  DH's family always makes fun of me for reading constantly about baby things.  Umm I think educating yourself is very important!

He makes me crazy...

That's a no no for sure!!!

easyBreezie

My family is from the states and make fun of me for my parenting choices. I think no matter what you do they will still find something. I know countries do things much differently but I've always heard honey is a big no no b/c of botulism.

kellim

I asked her about the warning labels all over the honey container.  She went and looked and was like "I've never noticed that before"

lizrenee06

OMGosh!!

palmtreejen

Not related to honey, but do they ever visit? My ILs are from Croatia and have been staying with us for 6 weeks now and we have 4 more to go! They've been a big help, but there have been some frustrating times. It must be a no no in Croatia to burp lo while he sits up right. When my ds was 10 weeks and I burped him sitting up right MIL freaked out. I had to show her the "what to expect the first year" book to calm her down. ughhhhh.

kellim

lol Yes, when they visit they reallyyy visit )  They just came when DS was 3 days old.  They stayed 2 months -- the longest months of my life!  There were many things that MIL did not agree with.  But I stayed stubborn and when I said that newborns should sleep on their backs...I meant it!  The burping thing reminded me of when I gave DS a sponge bath.  She insisted that I use salt water to bathe him.  I was like... umm no... 

They are about to come back for DS's first b-day.  I made my DH swear that the stay would not last over 2 1/2 weeks.  I seriously need my privacy and space!

lynne114

This scares me for when I finally meet my MIL.  I have been married over a year and DD is 5 months and still have yet to meet MIL.  She lives in Malaysia.  She kept wondering why at 4 months we hadnt started solids yet.  Ummm, because I was waiting for the doctor to so it was good to go.

palmtreejen

I agree!

Some things I let go. Like yesterday when she reorganized DS's closet. (I could have been upset, but she did a nice job.) Others though, I hold my ground. For example, before our 18 hour family road trip I warned the ILs that DS would stay in his car seat even if he was crying and that we would pull over before taking him out. The strange thing is that she worries when we leave him in a diaper for 5 minutes (in our 70 degree house) that he's going to get sick, but doesn't seem concerned about taking him out of the car seat at 70mph. I just don't get it.

If I do have a problem with something she has done or said, I go to DH first. He usually agrees with me and will talk to her so that it doesn't seem like I'm a nagging DIL. Don't get me wrong, I love them and they're great with DS, but we've all agreed 2.5 months is too long to live with anyone no matter who they are.