Is it appropriate?

MABELLL

DH wants SS to come and live with us for the opportunity to go to a better high school.  We have a 2 bedroom condo.

 

We have a 2 year old girl together.  Is it appropriate for a 2 year old girl to share a bedroom with her 14 year old ? brother?  A brother is a brother.  I don?t care about ?.

I don?t think it is appropriate if it?s a half or a full brother.  What do you think?

mom2one

Nope.

RedHeadedLeo85

I would check with state laws first. In my state, once a child reaches either 5 or 7, they are no longer allowed to share a room with the opposite sex, regardless of relation.

J+R

No, I don't think it is appropriate at all... Nor do I think that it is realistic to even consider this.

Littlejen22

Hell no.  And in some states it is illegal and if he went to court I would be shocked if they gave him custody in this situation.  Your only option would be for the 2yo to move to your bedroom and SS have his own room.  Better high school is one thing but sharing a room with a 2yo girl (or better yet, a 2yo girl sharing a room with a 14yo boy) is not a better situation MOST of the time.)  Either you move or you cannot even bring this up.

paris.inthe.spring

No. Not appropriate, for anyone involved. Not for the 2 yo who will inevitabley be exposed to things she shouldn't be. Not for the teen who needs privacy, and space.
I agree with other posters. You need to move before this is an option.

Mrs.Astros_Fan

MABELLL:

DH wants SS to come and live with us for the opportunity to go to a better high school.  We have a 2 bedroom condo.

 

We have a 2 year old girl together.  Is it appropriate for a 2 year old girl to share a bedroom with her 14 year old ? brother?  A brother is a brother.  I don?t care about ?.

I don?t think it is appropriate if it?s a half or a full brother.  What do you think?

No.  If your DH wants SS to live with you, you need to find a larger place to live.

Ginlyn0

Definitely not appropriate....

And I agree with PP on either finding a bigger place or moving the 2 y.o. into your room if your DH wants your SS to move in.

Erin0922

The relation has nothing to do with it, its the age. All appropriateness aside though... can you imagine being a 14 y/o boy and trying to do boy things, with a 2 y/o girl all in your space? Or vice versa?

Lady Redrum

Not at all. Happy house hunting.

MABELLL

Thanks ladies.  I did not think so either.

Kyah

Not appropriate at all. Do you have infrequent visitation with SS now? I am suprised he doesn't have his own room already

j+k

Agreed with everyone else. If it's terribly important he go to a better high school...start looking for a bigger place with 3 bedrooms.

Littlejen22

Kyah:

Not appropriate at all. Do you have infrequent visitation with SS now? I am suprised he doesn't have his own room already

Good point and not sure how none of us questioned that sooner.  Where do the kids sleep today during

Collski:-)

My SS is here for a visit and both are in the same room due to a mold issue my DS room.  It's a PITA.  My SS is 17, never in the room aside from sleep but just the "personal space" issue.  I went in there yesterday to change sheets and his crap was all over the place.   I decided at that moment that my idea of them sharing a room "temporarily" if he came for an extended summer would never work. 

knmommy

no, not fair for the 14 yo.

Ilumine

Most counties/states have laws regarding this.  It would be illegal. 

And even if it were not appropriate, it would not be FAIR to either child.  They each need their own space. 

detroitblondie

No.  More than anything it seems really unfair to the kids- especially the 14 year old.

McMrs

definitely not