I knew it! I knew it! FFS!

Mrs0815

Apparently if you google "gifts to give someone who's pregnant after a miscarraige" the #1 answer is the doppler. I got 3 (count em' 3!) in my stockings. I always thought they'd make me crazy & I was right. There is no HB I can find. I'm wigging out. Is my baby alive? FFS!! I knew it would make me be this way. I was making progress & this has set me back many many steps. I'm scared shiitless now. Ugh!

lil_rhody

I wasn't able to find the heartbeat until 11w at home. Try to relax and just try again later. I found that the more I tried when I was still early, the harder the baby would hide. Also, for next time, full bladder and empty colon help.

Do you really have 3 stockings??? lol

Mrs0815

lil_rhody:

I wasn't able to find the heartbeat until 11w at home. Try to relax and just try again later. I found that the more I tried when I was still early, the harder the baby would hide. Also, for next time, full bladder and empty colon help.

Do you really have 3 stockings??? lol

yes, at my house, my MIL's, & my mothers. Ok. I'll try to chill a little. Why can't I just find it so I can know it's alive in there??

BeckyS1211

you're not nuts girl!  Give it time, my OB wouldn't even try until I was 12w at the office : )  Your family must love you, getting you gifts to try and ease your mind

attyalice

Hedi-Love...

My doctor couldn't find Harper on his professional doppler until 12 weeks.... it is totally normal.  THIS is why I said I wouldn't send you one until after 12 weeks.  Give DH the dopplers.  Have him hide them... only use them after 12 weeks... most people can't find hb's until 11 weeks plus....

message Jacquie if you need reassurance... I believe she had a similar trouble.. and has a healthy baby covered in super glue....

Clery

Yikes! I'm sure all is fine. I have heard it is hard to find in the beginning. Good for you trying to use it, it would make me crazy too. Just take deep breaths and try again later or else screw it and return them all. Sometimes too much knowledge can make u crazy....

jen-dale

At my 10 wk appt the OB told me he would try the doppler, but only if I promised not to freak out if we couldn't hear it. He said it was on the early side. We did find it but when I tried with my own at home I couldn't find it for another week or so. I'm sure your baby is doing just fine. Step away from the dopplers and try again in a few days.

Mrs0815

Thanks girls. It's odd that a Christmas gift ruined my Christmas. I've been crying like a babbeling brook & my husband is very worried about my mental well being. He hid the Doppler & is kind of keeping his distance. Alice I should have just listened. I never thought my family would even know what a Doppler was let alone all get one. My mom tried to make me feel better by taking me shopping only to have ne run out of Janie & Jack sobbing. I'm so over feeling like this.

Mrs. Diss

I'm sorry. Try to relax though. We couldn't hear the heartbeat with the doppler at the doctor's office until after 13/14 weeks.  ((HUGS))

JenyM

Chill out chica! I didn't even try till like 14 weeks cuz I knew I'd freak. There are many reasons: it could be too early (most docs don't do doppler till after 12 weeks), your placenta can be anterior, your ute can be tilted (mine was that's why I didn't even try), your babe is still little so there's loads of places to hide. So breathe and try again in a week. My tips: start in the middle, right above pubic bone and move to one side slowly. Then try the other side. They try moving up from the middle of pubic bone toward belly button. But, I just think its too early.

ibis

My OB could hardly even manage to find the baby's HB at 12 weeks with the Doppler - it's not always easy! At first he was hiding behind some of my arteries that blocked the sound, and then he was moving around so much she had trouble finding him. So it really shouldn't worry you too much.

I got an inkling of how tricky the Doppler is (I've never had one) at my 34 week appt. A student attempted to find the baby's HB but couldn't... at that point, he's like 6 lbs and definitely moving, and she had a really hard time! 

andrea z

I would call my doctor's office and see if they can bring you in for a quick check.  My doctor knew I had one, and told me if I ever could not find the HB to call and they would bring me in for a quick scan.  I never had to, but for mental health.... I would call and tell them what happened and that you are upset. 

I had a home dopler with the twins, and heard at 10 weeks.... but my uterus was bigger than it would be with a single baby.  Remember your uterus doesn't pop out of your pelvis until closer to 12 weeks.... so your pelvis can be blocking baby. 

tinkersumx

I got mine at 10 weeks and just found the HB yesterday for the first time. I freaked at first too. Little One is fine!

mchell9

Oh Mrs...breathe in- breathe out- repeat 3x's. Okay- I am as far along as you are and was only able to find the h/b once out of trying 3x's. You have to start very very low- like right above your vag and apply some pressure moving it so so slowly. If the baby's back is toward you or if he/she is moving around too much it is impossible to find. Think about how tiny the beart is right now. Page me if you need me- I had to talk myself off the ledge yesterday. What kind do you have?

KateAndMark

You are still super early for a doppler. I would put it up for a week and then try again. Some of the tricks that I used was to use a TON of u/s gel and to lay flat and move the doppler VERY slowly.

Kelly0615

I get mine via UPS next week. I heard some people even have trouble until 14 weeks.

Someone said to try laying on your stomach for 5-10 min then try the doppler. Sorry you are having trouble. Baby is just being stubborn.

smileychic10986

I couldn't hear the baby's heartbeat on the Doppler until I was about 15 weeks!  So I think you're little one is perfectly fine in there and is just hiding a bit.  It's still a bit early for you to hear it on your home Doppler anyway...  I wouldn't worry right now! 

mrshutch

Mrs0815:

Thanks girls. It's odd that a Christmas gift ruined my Christmas. I've been crying like a babbeling brook & my husband is very worried about my mental well being. He hid the Doppler & is kind of keeping his distance. Alice I should have just listened. I never thought my family would even know what a Doppler was let alone all get one. My mom tried to make me feel better by taking me shopping only to have ne run out of Janie & Jack sobbing. I'm so over feeling like this.

Oh, hon, it'll be okay! Yes- step away from the dopplers! I can't believe they all gave you one- I know they meant well, but yikes. And FYI, I was also one of the ones who wasn't able to hear the h/b until 13.5 wks. My OB tried at the 10 wk appt. and knew I'd freak if she couldn't find it so she snuck me in for an u/s. Totally healthy baby in there. It'll be okay. And if you're emotional right now, there's nothing wrong with that. It's an anxious time and sometimes it helps to just get the tears out. But hopefully you'll feel better soon!

Leah&Cole

Step away from the doppler!  My doc couldn't even find the baby on her doppler last week at my 13w appointment, but baby was kicking away on the u/s.  I'm sure everything is fine!

beaner628

It is still early! I found it closer to the 11th week and it took a lot of patience and time. Dont freak out!

cm215204

It is early!  We couldn't find it at 10 weeks.  I know everyone has said that, but you may have to wait a few weeks, or you could find it tomorrow.  In the mean time, the things I found that helped were:

Lots of gel

My boy was super super low, didn't expect him to be down so far, but he was constantly below my "panty-line"

Your placenta makes a wooshing sound, I always tried to find that first and knew the heartbeat would be nearby

 Good luck!

ezbakejess

You are fine- step away from the dopplers! Babies are good hiders, and I'm sure your baby is following in your footsteps and being nice and ornery.  

Wait a while and try again - and when you do, lay on the floor instead of the couch/bed. That helped me.

Good luck, mama! I'm sure everything's fine.  

Kelanne

Oh, please try not to worry (easier said than done)  I couldn't hear my son Dylan's hb until I was over 14 weeks and now he's a healthy and happy 3 1/2 year old.

I just got a doppler last week and I hear the heatbeat, but it's VERY faint.  I'll be 14 weeks tomorrow.

I'm sure everything is fine.  It's really normal not to hear the hb on a doppler this early.  In fact, at my 11 week OB appt, she didn't even try w/a doppler, she just checked me w/an ultrasound.

((( HUGS ))))

grr_aargh

I've been going back and forth over getting a doppler and I don't think I'm going to for this reason.  Don't give yourself unnecessary worry!!

When I went in for my 14 week apt with my son we couldn't find him with the medical doppler.  Did a quick u/s and there he was, happy as can be. . .  and I'm a very skinny gal . . . Just don't let it get you down!  (I know, easier said than done.  Anyway doc can slip you in for a quick appt to reassure you?)