If one more doctor rolls their eyes

ShellShockedMama

when i say "i'm seeing a midwife" i'm going to scream.

I would really like to say "I can call my midwife at midnight and ask her a question, if you think you're so great, what's your number. I'll be calling you soon".

Dumb doctors.

Danielleee

That seems really disrespectful!  Which doctors are doing this?  The practice we are using has both OBs and midwives, and I "graduated" to a midwife once my pregnancy was considered low-risk.  Most midwifes are MORE knowledgeable than OBs about low-risk pregnancy and childbirth practices! 

ShellShockedMama

It was when I was at the ER, every.single.person. (well doctor) rolled their eyes at me and LAUGHED a little. Whatever. They're totally regulated in Florida, it's not like some random woman is going to be sticking her hand up my vag. Ugh.

ladylaurali25

That is soooo disrespectful!! So effing what if you want to decide to use a midwife?! That is YOUR decision.

 

bkjcwedding

ladylaurali25:

That is soooo disrespectful!! So effing what if you want to decide to use a midwife?! That is YOUR decision.

Exactly.  It's not like there aren't enough pregnant 15 year olds to keep the doctors in business. Geesh! 

erpetdoc

The practice I go to encourages the use of midwives (as do most of the practices in this county).  The only time an OB is used is in the case of patient request, high-risk, or other maternal/fetal issues.  I'm perfectly happy using a midwife.  It doesn't mean you're getting any less care, and in fact, as pp stated, sometimes more care.  :-) 

So how did the ER visit go today??

LilMaggs

The doctors rolled their eyes, my in-laws flipped.  Although I did get my revenge on an ER doctor.  I had morning sickness bad enough that I ended up getting sent to the ER for dehydration on Christmas day ( a few years ago).  The doctor told me my midwife didn't know what she was talking about because she was a midwife, and that he knew it was all in my head.  I asked him how many kids he had, and he said he had one.  I came right back with, "Let me guess- you're such a *** about the whole thing that your wife refused to have more?"  That shut him up and I had medication for the nausea 15 minutes later.  I usually don't like getting nasty, but I found it really hard to feel guilty...

mamaholic

Please do. I agree with you. If I could have the personal care of a midwife, I would! Plus I hate my practice but they're the only ones who have delivery privileges at the hospital in town!

And Ketch

Amen.  Those doctors are the exact reason I am seeing a MW!

itsMsAlbin

My MIL rolled her eyes and told someone I was seeing a MW at our Christmas party last night.  DH was all over it and then spent an hour telling that person why MWs are awesome...love him.  I totally feel your pain.  My MIL keeps saying I just wish you were seeing a doctor, I worry you aren't getting what you need.  Really?  because my midwife will spend up to an hour and a half a visit with me, and my OB never saw me for an hour and a half my whole pregnancy with James.  I think I'll be just fine.

biohaz444

I ended up seeing 2 of the other OBs in my OBs practice, and HATED them both, such complete a$$e$...

 So I finally saw my OB to talk after the 2 MCs, and I talked with him about switching to a MW. He told me that there are 4 MWs in his practice, all awesome, and that he often goes to them when he has a question about a pg. Completely agreed when I said I wanted a MW, and said that IF I wanted to see him once in a while, that'd be fine, too. 

AND, can only deliver in the "birth place" with a MW, the OBs don't deliver there. Won me over!