I just want one

Aprilsies

Is that mean or selfish...I couldn't mentally/physically handle another. And dh is alot to do with that....he mentally can't handle a lot so I get the brunt.

Aprilsies

I never thought I would be the type of mom (not that their is one) to only have one kid.I thought we would have 3-4...now I'm sadsies.

grettaz

I only want one. I don't think it's mean or selfish. If someday I want another child as badly as I wanted E, then I'll have one, but I have absolutely no desire at this point, and I really don't foresee it happening.

*Caress*

I don't think it's selfish at all.... But hey once your baby isn't a baby anymore the baby itch might kick in again and you'll forget about how difficult and hard it was. So you might end up having another anyway

laurenshay

I don't think you are selfish for only wanting one baby to spoil and give the world to.  I think that is fantastic.  In a way, I wish that we had only wanted one so that we could have spoiled him.  I want three. I can't help it.  I grew up in a big family (both of my parents are the oldest of 5 siblings).  I love the idea of lots of cousins and aunts and uncles.  Thats what I had growing up and I want that for my kiddos. 

ljlkm

If it is, then so am I.  I knew going into it that one was all I would be able to handle physically and mentally.  Even though DS is a relatively easy baby, I still feel the same way.   And financially, I know having just one will be so much easier.  DH is on board, so we're one and done!

rebus82

What's selfish about only having one child? That you can give that child all the love and attention they want/need without compromising for the sake of their siblings? To be able to care for them and be there for them in the future in all ways possible without having to compromise for the sake of their siblings? Is it not better to have one child you can be there for, rather than two or three or five that you have to neglect one for the sake of another? Robbing Peter to pay Paul is not a good parenting ideology, IMO. 

If you can't tell, I am a firm believer in One and Done. 

jolis_petits_bijoux

We're probably one and done.  Nothing selfish about it.

If you're making a conscious decision that's going to make you a better parent, I think that's selfless, not selfish.

htomeo

It is not selfish to know your limits. It would be selfish to have more, knowing you or your DH could not handle it.