did you feel better or worse when you got out of first tri?

someflower6

i'm thrilled to almost be out of the first tri. what a milestone. sometimes i can't even believe we made it this far. the fact that risk of miscarriage drops significantly is really encouraging. but at the same time, it's starting to dawn on me that i still have a loooong way to go. i'm trying not to think about all the things that could potentially go wrong, but i can't help but feel a little nervous (the fact that i'm overweight and have hypertension does not help. at all).

so for those who have made it that far... how did you feel getting out of the first tri? did you feel a lot of relief, or a lot of worry (or a lot of both)? what's been some of the biggest hurdles that you've overcome? any tips for those who have yet to go over them?

crysbena

Okay I got worse right at 13-14 weeks but then I felt great after that... until about 28 weeks... then the exhaustion hit hard again.

katie9136

first of all, congrats!!! glad you made it out alive : ) it does get better with everyday that passes.

I FEEL better physically. The morning sickness went away (there?s still an occasional vom sesh every once in a while though) I have energy to do things again and my sex drive came back in full swing. But now I get headaches that almost ruin all of those other things. 

Emotionally, I still struggle and think I will until the day I have my baby in my arms. Going through 2 losses totally screws up this experience which should be joyful and happy and all that good stuff. Seeing the baby for the first time on the ultrasound was my first bit of excitement. It felt more real at that point. Then a good NT scan. And then I had a bleeding scare right when I was finally about to kick my feet up and realize a baby would be here in a few months. I am hoping when I find out the sex that will let me be that way then. It?s like little stepping stones. But I don?t think it?s wrong or weird that any of us have our doubts and worry all the time. Someone told me the other day that worrying is part of being a mother.

Keep your head up girl. Big hugs. 

smileychic10986

I felt quite a bit of relief when I was out of 1st tri, but not completely better either.  The NT scan also helped me to feel better.  Because I don't really have any symptoms of pregnancy at this point I still fear a missed m/c at times.  I finally got a doppler about a week ago, and being able to hear the baby's heartbeat if I am feeling nervous has helped me recently. 

Don't worry, your little babe is growing just perfectly in there!  Hang in there  

PurpleK26

Emotionally I got much better. I'm still a TP checker, but when I did have some spotting at 16 weeks, I didn't panic the way I would have at 10 weeks, more just a "well, lets figure out what's causing this" kinda mind frame.

Physically, my m/s was the worst from about week 12 to about week 14, and didn't totally go away till about week 16. Pain started around week 20 and is still here... but I have a very low lying LO, so that's where all my pain is coming from.

Tips... well, I just tried to remind myself that no matter how perfect I was with my first pg, it didn't pan out the way I'd wanted it to, so worrying about 'should I or should I not do, eat, drink this or that' wasn't going to do much good or harm. I just really tried to not let myself get too excited about everything. Thant being said, it took me a long time to feel 'connected' to the pregnancy, and that was hard on me and I felt like I'd brought that on myself for not letting myself get excited.

Hang in there! 

mristine6

Phycically I felt worse from about 12 weeks to about 16 weeks I was throwing up constantly and very tired. In the past couple weeks I feel great. Emotionaly I was extemely nervous at my 14 week app because I felt like it was my 1st app in 2nd tri and if it went good then I really had reason to hope. I have not worried as much about things like I did in 1st tri but I still have my moments. Even though I've had several u/s I'm starting to get really nervous about my 20 week scan and I hate that because I just want to be excited. It gets a little easier after every app but I still worry a lot

jen-dale

I had a lot of both. I think the fact that the few symptoms I did have, disappeared made it difficult. Not really showing and not being able to feel anything were difficult too. Once I could start feeling movement, and once we had the big u/s it got so much easier. That said, I still have days (like today) where little thing worry me. All you can do is try to cherish every minute. You won't want to look back when you are 40 weeks and say how terrible being pregnant was because of the worry.

erinkate23

I felt terrible til 15 weeks.  My m/s was pretty terrible (all day long) and I counted down to the end of 1st tri for it to go away.  When it didn't I wanted to die! 

I felt a million times better at 15 weeks, and much of my anxiety went away after the "big" u/s at 18 weeks.

Jenny086

I am so glad you posted this.  2nd tri started yesterday for me (according to doc, not Bump gods) and I was really nervous.  I have an ultrasound next week and I guess when I have proof I'm actually in 2nd tri, I hope to calm down some.  I think, too, the pressure of thinking, "oh good now I'm 2nd tri things should get better" actually messed with my head.  I can't answer any of your questions, except to tell you that you are totally not alone on this.  And of course, congrats!

wannabmommy

I wasn't AS tired but still worried, but at that point the complications I had been having were working themselves out and so things were starting to look a little brighter for me.

Eviebee

I felt a little relief and mostly just b/c I got to tell everyone.  But I was still nervous and terrified of something going wrong.  Now that I can feel movement every day I am feeling much better and calmer about everything.

Grk_Natasha

I felt very relieved after our NT scan. But now I'm starting to worry about the big U/S in a couple weeks. Every step is good, but the worrying never really ends. I purchased a doppler which helps calm my nerves A LOT.