IL vent... grrrrr

AussieAbbie · December 2009

Long story cut short cause the more I think about this, the more mad I get.. so at the last minute, we held Thanksgiving at our house (14 pple in total) I made the turkey, a side dish of squash cassarole and did a dessert...I just ask them all to bring simple things (corn, green bean cassarole, potatoes - to make mash and some drinks etc since I think, well, i'm doing the big bird!!) and now (on Saturday) my SIL has asked that I bring (a cooked) turkey to her place for Christmas day and she plans we eat @ 2pm. WTF??? They live an hour from us.. so with 3wks till my scheduled c-section, they've asked me, the preggo sister (in law) to either a) get up early, prepare and cook the bird I guess in enough time to have it there by 2 to eat or b) get up early, get all the crap together to take to her place to put it in the oven to have it ready by 2.. Oh, she tells me the oven should be free cause she has the day off before hand and will do 'baking' then.. and yes, I'm working my usual office hours till 5 on Thursday... Am I hormornal or is it OK to be PI$$ED about this??!!!

::vent done::

skibrook82 · December 2009

I would totally be pissed!! You're a much better person than me because I would have said "NO WAY!!"

knelli · December 2009

Can you say no? THere are just way too many obstacles for that to work out well for you IMO. I would have DH call adn ask about making some changes to get you out of that job

dkfitz07 · December 2009

I would kindly say no. Either you have to be at her house all day and use her oven or the cooked bird will have to sit an hour in the car.

shaunnalar · December 2009

I would be PISSED! What are they thinking? I would order a cooked bird from somewhere and bring that.

ibis · December 2009

Just say no!

It was presumptuous of them to ask you and you have the perfect excuse: sorry, can't do it, I am too pregnant!

If you're afraid of confrontation just get your H to tell them no - it's his family.

AussieAbbie · December 2009

Ok.. thanks ladies.. I was thinking maybe I was just being hormonal but it is really eating at me that she even ask!!

DH thinks that because we both have incomes (till I go on maternity leave - and not to mention my big ole co-pay chunk of change we're about to fork out) that the probably think we are in the best position to 'provide' the bird for the family.. but it is really eating at me that they expect me to do this with 3wks till I give birth..cause lets be honest...its not like any of the men ever really do anything for Thanksgiving or Christmas, they just turn up and get fed and don't even do dishes afterwards either!! also this being my first child along with that!! Maybe I'd be a little more ok with it if I'd already had kids.. but this is all very over whelming being a first time mum.. I'm really usually a strong person but this is really getting to me and making me mad, the more mad I feel, I feel I am getting myself upset about it.

kellieok · December 2009

I would be mad too! And money shouldnt be the reason why they think you can afford a turkey when they dont even cost that much! But seriously how does she expect you to bring it when you are an hour away! And if her oven is free I dont understand why she cant do it herself...