So disappointed...

catherine225

I just need to share this to get it off my chest, my mind, bleh...

The other day I posted about whether or not to wait until after achieving tenure to TTC. My husband and I had long talks over the weekend, and we finally decided -- what the heck.... I'm a good teacher, we want a baby, let's just do it! 

 And then on Monday morning I hear the news that they're probably cutting teachers... 1 ELA or SS a year for the next three years. I'm probably safe for this year and maybe next, but if someone doesn't retire/leave that third year I might be looking for a new job...tenured or not.

 I guess I'm just disappointed because it's so hard to plan things out in this uncertain economy. Then again, maybe if we wait until things are perfect, it'll never happen. 

 Did anyone else have BOTB and decide they should wait things out? ::sigh::

Bubbalini

We had to make the tough decision too because I was working full-time and going to school part-time.  We realized there would never be a perfect time to do it.

It's different for everyone. You and your husband need to decide for your family if you can work it out if you end up getting PG and then lose your job.

mmk3742

We pushed back ttc a year bc of the economy and the uncertainty about dh's job.  But I am not going to push it back again.  His job is still uncertain and we still can't afford daycare.  But my job is much more secure now than it was a year ago.

jCamsquared

catherine225:

Then again, maybe if we wait until things are perfect, it'll never happen. 

This is what we figured. But that's just us. You have to do what's right for you.

buckin

When we first started, things were good. I'm three years in with infertility issues and the economy caught up with us. We've struggled with continuing but due to the infertility, my age etc. we feel we don't have a choice. We just do what we can. Things aren't perfect, we don't have as much money in the bank as we would like, but I'm putting it in God's hands and having faith that it will be ok.

I don't know if I will ever have a child, so waiting on a sure thing jobwise (or a perfect situation) could be detrimental to the slim chance I do have. I choose life and family over increased budget and spending.

It's a hard choice. I wish you luck with it.

FireWife2009

My philosophy is if everyone waited for the PERFECT time to have a baby, no one would have them. With the economy, its never going to be a PERFECT time..So i say go for it. Everything will work out.. Always does.

preppynewlywed

We actually just went for it.  This is going to get long, but you'll understand when I am finished.

We decided to start TTC in December 08.  I was working full time and going to grad school full time.

In February 09 I got laid off.  I was the breadwinner at that point...by a lot.  We kept TTC, because we decided that we could still afford the baby on DH's salary if we made some huge cuts.

In March 09 DH got furloughed for 45 days.  Now neither of us was working.  We decided to still continue TTC.  We had enough in savings to support us and a child for 6 months.

In May 09, DH went back full time and got a raise.  Now we were definitely okay.  He has become the breadwinner.

Things happen.  You just have to decide if you are in a position to support a child on one salary.

We have a solid savings account back from when I was working a better job.  We knew we could downgrade our living situation if we had to do so.  We knew we could afford the basics: housing, healthcare, food, and basic baby products.

Why not keep TTC and just save, save, save?  Are you in a position to put away more of your income if you cut out extraneous things like dinners out or traveling?

MrsBalletStar05

3 years is a ways away.  Anything could happen in that time frame.  Personally, I'd say go for it.