Every single night at this time

ShanJosh777

I feel like I'm about to lose it.  I am SO sick of listening to DS scream and scream and eventually having to lay with him in my bed to get him to go to sleep.  I am at my wit's end.  I swear CIO will not work with this kid.  No matter how long I let him go, he doesn't ever stop.  I honestly think he would cry for an hour if I'd let him.  Ugh just need to vent, I am so freaking sick of it.

Kateysomething

*hugs* it sucks, i've been there

I actually was just cleaning out a notebook and found the log I kept when we did Ferber with DD. It WAS over an hour that she cried. And it was really hard.

DelGrecoBride

if it makes you feel any better, brock cried for two hours straight one night. he now goes to bed without a problem. however...he wakes up in the middle of the night still. ugh.

Califlorida

ugh, i'm so sorry.  we've been there.  it took 3-4 days of ferber at 10mos.  i'm sure if i were trying it at this age i'd have quite a challenge on my hands.  hang in there.

Mrs.Goldenblatt

I'm sorry.  I've been there and it's the worst thing in the world.  Makes your blood pressure sky rocket and puts you on edge. Luckly, he'll go down in his crib most nights without crying but will wake up between 11 and 1 and CIO will not work.  I gave up and DS now spends msot nights in between us.  There goes our sex life as well because 9 times out of 10 he wakes up right as we get going.  I'm hoping that once we transition into a toddler bed things will get better.

MrsG2B07

So sorry!!  Did you try the Ferber method?  We did at 10 months after co-sleeping and nursing to sleep.

I didn't want to let her cry more than 10 minutes at a time.  So I just went in there every 10 minutes, layed her down, and just tried to soothe her without picking her up.  Then I left and came back every 10 til she fell asleep.  Never took more than 3 times with DD, but I know that's no the norm.

Jamie1999

is he overtired?  i know ds reaches a point of no return when he is overtired.

ShanJosh777

Kateysomething:

*hugs* it sucks, i've been there

I actually was just cleaning out a notebook and found the log I kept when we did Ferber with DD. It WAS over an hour that she cried. And it was really hard.

Am I doing it wrong then?  Should I be letting him go as long as it takes, even if it's an hour or more?  I guess I thought there was some cap to it.  Plus I feel so awful for him.  But if that's the right way to do it, I will force myself to do it.

ShanJosh777

Jamie1999:

is he overtired?  i know ds reaches a point of no return when he is overtired.

This could be the case tonight, because I had to work until 9 and he was at his dad's so we didn't get home until about 9:45.  But this is every.single.night, regardless of the time.  I need to try something new, but I wonder if it's even worth it now, with Christmas coming up at the end of the week I'm sure it will be hard to stick to a schedule.

Kateysomething

If it would help I could even share my first night's log with you. I wrote down every check, how long it was, etc.

We just increased the increments til the checks were 10 minutes in between. I think it was just over an hour, and I had anticipate the next check in 10 minutes and I got to cross it out and write that she wasn't making noise...then ended up going back in again.

It has been a while since I read Ferber, but I don't think he advocates putting a time limit on it.. It actually makes ME want to cry thinking back to that night and how hard it was at first. But it was so, so, so, so worth it.

ShanJosh777

Kateysomething:

If it would help I could even share my first night's log with you. I wrote down every check, how long it was, etc.

We just increased the increments til the checks were 10 minutes in between. I think it was just over an hour, and I had anticipate the next check in 10 minutes and I got to cross it out and write that she wasn't making noise...then ended up going back in again.

It has been a while since I read Ferber, but I don't think he advocates putting a time limit on it.. It actually makes ME want to cry thinking back to that night and how hard it was at first. But it was so, so, so, so worth it.

OK, that makes sense, you still check in every 10 minutes.  I was thinking of an hour between checks.  And I couldn't do that.  He actually just quit crying.  I want to go in and check on him, but I'm afraid he will be awake and staring at me.  But then I'm afraid something is wrong because he's not crying.  Gah!  I hope we get through this quickly.

LoriB00

What's the absolute longest period of time you've let him cry so far?? The only time I've seen that you use a cap on the crying is for nap times, where the cut off is an hour.  For bedtime there is usually not a cap.   

ShanJosh777

LoriB00:

What's the absolute longest period of time you've let him cry so far?? The only time I've seen that you use a cap on the crying is for nap times, where the cut off is an hour.  For bedtime there is usually not a cap.   

Well, I guess I have been thinking of it the wrong way.  When I talk about letting him cry for x amount of time, I always meant without going in there to soothe him.  So that was 10-15 minutes.  But the longest that he's actually been in bed crying is probably about 40 minutes or so.  Like 4 times going in there, then I feel bad and give up. 

BabyMenzel

does he have a sippy of water in with him?

ds will.not.sleep without one and will scream bloody murder because he gets so thirsty at night

Califlorida

sounds like you have the time increments down.  checking every 5-10 mins.  but sometimes that will just go on and on and on.  if you haven't read ferber you should check it out.  super helpful.  also, when we did sleep training was when we finally bought a video monitor.  it was so comforting to see what was going on in there.