Holy batsh*t MIL

robinsokj

So, my mom is prepping the invites for our coed baby shower...Yes, I realize its early, but we opted to have one at 25 weeks due to my already restricted activity and threat of PTL.  Anyway, MIL sent the list to my mom and it had 40 addresses. 

Many of these people we've never heard of and she left her own 2 sisters off!  DH and I are revising it and resending it to mom and hoping we dont get crap from MIL.  OY

Erin0922

My list has 50 people. At first it seemed like an okay amount (I have a huge family) but now I am starting to panic about being around that many people wanting to touch me. Ick!

robinsokj

Thats just MIL's list...we still have my family and our friends.  lordy

Raffes484

I think having your shower early is smart. My friend developed pre-e and delivered her twins at 29 weeks. Obviously, that's not the norm, but I think it's better for you to be prepared and have what you need for the boys.

Carmela752

Holy moly.

My DH's side is Greek, and my big fat greek baby shower had, like, 80 people invited. I'm not sure how many showed up, but I know I'm still working on the damned_thank you notes! (Not knowing who half of them are definitely slows down the process.)

I had one shower at 24 weeks, one at 28 weeks, and went on bedrest right at 29 weeks for PTL, so I don't think it's too early at all.

mopsie

Did you give your MIL guidelines before allowing her to make a list?  If she thought it was "invite your friends", then I don't blame her for putting 40 people on the list - the birth of twin grandchildren is probably something she's excited to share with her friends.

Dec31stBride

I was so annoyed at my baby shower last time because my aunt (the hostess) didn't put out the hot food until after (or while) I opened gifts. Pregnant lady was hungry!!! By the time I finished opening everything I was highly irritable, which is a shame. I was grateful for the gifts, but it would've been nice if I'd been able to eat 1st!

So, the lesson is...eat first, especially if you are having a large guest list!!! 

robinsokj

She uses any kind of event as a way to show off or make it about her...so we knew editing would be in the works at some point.  Obviously the more presents the better (not trying to sound greedy, but these twins were not financially planned for) but I dont want to be gift grabby from people Ive never heard of or from the 90 yr old man in Florida who was too ill to make it to our wedding 2.5 yrs ago.

KLA_07

It is ridiculous for her to take over.  You're smart to invite who you want from it.  For our wedding, DH's family gave me a list of about 10 couples/families, then was ticked that we didn't invite some of their "people."  They said after the wedding that they thought all these other people would have been on my list, so they were mad at me about it!  Ridiculous!

StephanieDM

Oh hun!! I feel your pain! My MIL is throwing me a shower, and by my I mean herself. She is inviting 50-60 people and I swear to you, DH and I only know about 10-15 of them. The rest are her friends, coworkers, old neighbors, etc. I'm someone who likes a small and intimate get together, but obviously thats not MIL's style. *cringes*?I want off of this crazy circus train!! lol