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kellydisney

I just found out I miscarried on Monday.  It was our first pregnancy and I am heartbroken though I'm sure all of you know the horrible feelings of devastation.  I just wanted to come in here and get some hope.  How many of you are here after a miscarriage and having healthy (or several healthy) pregnancies?  How long did it take you to get pregnant again?  How did you keep the feelings of stress and anxiety under control while waiting to see that heartbeat? 

 Thanks ladies.  I miscarried at 5 weeks 2 days (should have been 6 weeks).

lovesinthehouse

I am so sorry for your loss. My miscarriage devastated me and changed my life...though eventually for the better. I learned so much about God and myself through the process. Allow yourself all the time that you and your DH need to grieve. You lost a little life, and that is significant and not something that you can just brush off.

As for my story, I also had a missed m/c. Found out at 9 weeks that baby A stopped developing at 7w5d and baby B at 5w5d. I opted to miscarry naturally. The bleeding didn't start for another two weeks and then I bled for three months. It was so long and drawn-out, but I processed a lot emotionally in that time. Then it took 10 months TTC after that. 

Good luck to you in the future! If you haven't already, check out the miscarriage and TTC after a loss boards. Great, supportive women there.

kristyn&ken

Try to hold out hope and remain patient. I had a healthy DD with no issues then 4 consecutive losses (3 m/c and 1 ectopic where I lost a tube). There were times I felt like quitting and times I thought it was time to throw in the towel but now I am on course with a healthy pregnancy and are farther along than I made it before. It gets better, I promise. Just hang in there and try not to put yourself on too strict of a timeline - it may take some time before you get your sticky baby.

ibis

I'm sorry for your loss.

I miscarried at 9 weeks almost a year ago. It took me 3 cycles of trying again to get pg with this little one. In the early weeks of this pregnancy I tried to distract myself and just let the days go by... first trimester passes pretty quickly. The TTCAL board and this board were great helps to me after my m/c.

GL 

Gina070605

I am so very sorry for your loss.  Lots of T& P's for you and your family.

I had one m/c and one c/p.  It took us almost 2 years to finally get a healthy pregnancy, but I had thyroid issues that we were unaware of until we switched RE's.  Once that was taken care of we got pregnant almost immediately.

For me the feeling of stress lasted quite a while, but it's pretty natural especially after a loss (or losses).  I'm not sure that it ever goes away because there is always something that I worry about but it does get better as the time passes.

 

 

megjr8

I am very sorry for your loss. I naturally miscarried at around 7 weeks in April. I was not emotionally ready to TTC again until July and on my 5th cycle I got my BFP. The MC/PL and TTCAL boards will be a great help to you along your journey! Can't wait to see you on here in the future! Best wishes!

And Ketch

*hugs*  I am sorry for your loss. 

I got pg again very quickly, before 1st AF post-m/c.  Some docs don't recommend this, mainly for emotional reasons, but it was the right choice for me.   Many women get pg again within 1-2 cycles post-m/c if they try right away.  Talk to your doc and DH and make the best choice for your health, physically and emotionally.

megdrew1218

So sorry for your loss. I know it's a rough time now for you. It gets better. Promise. I got pg after my first AF. My doctor says there is no reason why this one won't go as planned. So far, everything is on track. One miscarriage will not dictate your future pregnancies. These boards made me realize that. And also that it's sooo much more common than I thought. The boards are good for regulating stress and anxiety as well. Good luck to you and hope to see you here soon!

lovesinthehouse

And Ketch:

Many women get pg again within 1-2 cycles post-m/c if they try right away. 

This is a myth. You are not more fertile right after a m/c. 

superaunt

I'm incredibly sorry for your loss.

I had to have a d&c at about 8 weeks with my first pregnancy. That was last July. It took me nine months to get pg again... but I'm here and I'm set to welcome baby in just a week and a half. It hasn't been an easy road by any means, but one that has made me stronger and has made me appreciate things like never before.

Best of luck to you!

OregonMama

I'm so very sorry for your loss. 

I had a missed m/c at 14 weeks.  Baby stopped growing at 10w5d.  I had to have a D&C.  We started trying after my first AF arrived and it took us five cycles to get pregnant again.  I'm now almost to 17 weeks and I still worry.

Definitely seek out the support of the TTCAL board.  They are wonderful women who are very supportive and helpful.  Also, don't get discouraged if it doesn't happen right away.  I know pp said many women get pregnant within 1 to 2 cycles if they start trying right away, but I'm not sure how accurate that is and I don't want you to be upset if it doesn't happen that quickly for you.

Most importantly, take care of yourself.  Cry, scream, yell, whatever you need to do. 

(((HUGS)))

shaunnalar

I am very sorry for your loss.  Don't give up hope.  Unfortunately this happens to many women.  I found out at my 10w appointment that our baby stopped developing at 8 weeks.  My doctor is wonderful and told me that having a miscarriage won't dictate any future pregnancies.  Since my body did not recognize my loss, I had a D&C two days later.  After my follow-up with my doctor, she said we can try again after my first cycle.  We waited until the 2nd cycle and got pregnant again!  I am now 24 weeks along.  The worry is always there.  I was always a nervous wreck before each appointment.  It has gotten a little better since I can now feel her moving.  Good luck and the Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss Board, TTC After a Loss and this board are all wonderful boards to be apart of!  There are many strong women out there who have not given up hope. 

baltobride06

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope it brings you comfort to know that unfortunately, you are not alone. I m/c at 6w1d and was told by my doctor to wait until I got my first AF before trying again. We followed her advice and thankfully, we conceived immediately on our first try. I'm now 7w3d with my first appointment on Friday. I'm praying that I will learn everything is progressing normally, but I must admit the fear and worry can be all-consuming at times. I find it helps to know that God has a plan and to pray for a happy outcome. Best of luck to you, and try to stay positive.

MollyK0222

I am so sorry for your loss.  

I had a natural m/c in August at 8 weeks and got pg again after my 1st AF.  This pregnancy is going well so far.  My doc had me come in for an early u/s and everything looked good, although as pps said, the worry never really goes away.

Also, I found a lot of support on the TTCAL board.  Those ladies are amazing.

shawn&tony

So sorry for your loss {{hugs}} I m/c 12/08 at 19wks twins. the dr. didnt know why said it was natural...we didnt really try try just played the wait & see if it happens game and got a BFP this month! (I am older so that may have played a factor in the longevity)