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gwennythepooh

I just wanted to introduce myself before I started posting:) My name is Gwen and I'm from Pennsylvania. My husband and I were expecting a baby in May, but sadly we found out the day before Thanksgiving that lost our baby at 16 weeks. I had a d&c a few days later and have recovered well from it. We approached the subject of TTC this weekend and I'm unsure about it still. My doctor said to try again when we felt like we could handle something like this again, but if that's the case I don't know if I'd try again! My husband said he's ready to try when I am. So I thought I'd dip my toe in here and to see if I could get a feel for this. I just don't know when the right time is to try again.

maritzburggirl

I'm so sorry for your loss. Not everyone here is actively TTC (it took me 2 months before I felt ready to try again, just take it at your own pace), but we are all here to provide support as we learn to live with our new normal. I hope you can find the support you need here. hugs.

daphne814

maritzburggirl:

I'm so sorry for your loss. Not everyone here is actively TTC (it took me 2 months before I felt ready to try again, just take it at your own pace), but we are all here to provide support as we learn to live with our new normal. I hope you can find the support you need here. hugs.

Well put.  And I am also very sorry for your loss.  Feel free to post/lurk here whenever you feel like it!  Not everyone on this board is actively TTC.  (((hugs))) 

CAB'smommy

Everyone tries again at different times.  Don't feel rushed.  Wait until you're ready.  I wouldn't say to wait until you're ready to handle something like a m/c again.  None of us would try again if that's the case.  Geez!  Just wait until you're emotionally ready to start the process of conceiving.  Praying that next time will be your sticky baby!  And welcome!

TravelinMama

I'm so sorry for your loss.  You'll know when the right time is and when you're ready.  In the meantime, you're in the right place for support.

symonatb

Sorry for your loss. We are just TTC this cycle, but I lurked for the past couple of months. It really helps to have a group of ladies who you can relate to, esp when everyone else in your life has "moved on".

 Welcome!

Sonadora

Sorry for your loss, but welcome to the board.

 I think many of us have mixed feelings about when to try again. I know I do. I think you just need to give yourself the time to start to heal emotionally as well as physically. 6 weeks out I'm starting to feel maybe someday, even if that some day is not exactly as soon as when the doc said we could start again.

Temp950106187509203

I'm so sorry for your loss.  {{hugs}}  This board is amazing for support/advice/distraction/whatever you need.  I wish you luck in figuring it all out.  You'll be more than welcome here regardless of when you decide to start trying.  As others have already told you, there are lots of us here who are waiting for various reasons.

KAG30

I am so sorry for your loss.  I was on here a few months before actively TTC and found lots of love an support from the lovely ladies here. 

Court1

Glad to see you over here!  Since we've been through hel! with just about the same story, I hope we both have very happy endings very soon .  My dr's basically given us the go ahead to do whatever we want (recommended 1 cycle wait for dating).  Some days I never want to be pregnant again & others I long for a baby bump.  Welcome to the jouney  

sydney0928

Welcome, and I'm sorry for your loss. What a terrible thing to find out at Thanksgiving.

As everyone has said, people are ready at different times. Personally I couldn't wait to start trying again. You will know when you're ready. GL to you.

BrittLy15

I am very sorry for your loss. We are waiting one cycle before we try again. Do what feels right for you. Best wishes!

cintim

I'm so sorry for your loss but I'm glad you've found this board and the wonderful ladies on it. Feel free to take part here, even if your not actively TTCing yet.

PeetiePie

Hi Gwen. I'm sorry about your loss.  Thanks for sharing and like pp said many of us are not actively TTC, inlcuding myself.  Welcome.