am I in the wrong? (long)

Ginaincali

Seriously I'm a little annoyed.  I'm having a Cookie Exchange tomorrow with one of the girls from my husbands job.  We just met a week ago at a mutual friends Christmas party.  Well while we were at this friends party she said all of 5 sentences to both of us so since our husbands were talking we talked all night long.  The guys mentioned to each other that they wanted to do a Christmas party and I told Erynn, the girl I'm doing the party with tomorrow, that I wanted to do a cookie party and she said she did too.  So we, while drinking mind you, threw out the idea of doing a cookie exchange the following weekend.  We left it at that and as I was leaving I said I'll facebook you.  So I did and we decided to go ahead and do it.  Well we then invited the other friend.  I said "yeah we kinda decided on it while drinking at your house haha."  Not thinking anything of it just throwing it out there.  Well she started being really distant with Erynn and Erynn mentioned that this friend doesn't like when her friends become friends.  We however felt it was inevitable since our husbands work together.  Can I just mention this is why I don't have alot of friends because I can't deal with this girl drama.  Anyway just now I'm on FB and she IMs me, and says Have fun tomorrow.  And I said "thanks.  Wish you could come but I realize it was planned fast!"  She responds with "Honestly it wasn't the timing" umm ok whatever I just drop it and talk about something else she goes on to say "I felt like I wasn't meant to be there since you guys planned it at my house and I wasn't told about it! But whatever."

Umm so I go on to say

"and even all this week up until Thursday night I wasn't sure it was even going to happen because we hadn't heard anything from the people we invited at the guys job. I thought it was going be called off

its not like it was done on purpose and I certainly didn't intend to make you feel that way so i'm sorry."

but seriously I don't feel like all this had to be done, and I really don't get the hurt feelings.  Ok I plan a party but it's not set in stone why am I going to include you in those plans if I don't even know for sure yet?  I mean it's not like just because we are all three friends I have to include you in everything the two of us do without her.  We live an hour away from this friend so the two of us will probably get together more anyway.  I just don't get it.  This is really why I don't get close to people because I can't deal with all this uncalled for drama.  I mean really am I in the wrong here??

 

ColindaP

No. That is ridiculous. Grow up.

PeetiePie

Sheesh.  I'm sorry you had to deal with all that.

ColindaP

BTW, my "grow up" comment is directed at your friend, not at you.

Ginaincali

ColindaP:

BTW, my "grow up" comment is directed at your friend, not at you.

lol I didn't think it was directed at me 

rjl07

Nope - not wrong.  She's just being difficult.

dondraandluis

You are def not in the wrong. She is being ridiculous! Doesn't she realize she isn't in hs anymore?

Mrs.Kristen

sadly I think as some people get older they revert back to middle school and high school ways and that is exactly what she's doing

Pixiestx

She sounds really insecure and afraid of being left out. Makes me wonder if she's been burned badly in the past by this situation.

mamaholic

Absolutely not. She is being childish. Who is she to dictate when she is told if you invite her to a party. That is ridiculous!

j_st.charles

Im with you!  I can't handle the drama!  Ummm no you are definitely not in the wrong....that lady needs to go back to high school!

klk2klb

No, I don't think you're in the wrong at all.  She should be happy that the two of you are friends.  It'll make get togethers that much better for all of you if she wasn't so childish.

JuJuBe3

I don't think you're in the wrong at all.  It sounds to me like she is feeling insecure about your friendship with Erynn and was IMing you to get you to ask her come in a more personal way that would make her feel better.  I hear you, I hate girl drama too. 

nobodygirl1983

This is exactly why I prefer to hang out with DH and the guys. Girls are full of too much drama. (Not you ladies, btw, you guys are awesome!)