"You must've had a pretty easy pregnancy"

borc0080

This is what some random man said to me when DH and I were out to dinner tonight with DD.  And I have no idea what would've made him say that!  Maybe he thought that since DD was sleeping peacefully while we ate, every day must be a cake walk.

To my credit, I did not give him a giant throatpunch.  I calmly said, "Actually, no. She was born almost 6 weeks early."

At least he didn't try to touch her!

wanderlust2006

My MIL talks about my "easy pregnancy" all the time. Yup, if you don't count the twice daily insulin injections, severe back pain, 2 weeks hospital bed rest, and 7 weeks in the NICU, it was I piece of cake.

kamcfarlane

OMG! my mouth is wide open! i can't believe that someone else's MIL is like that too! we had infertility issues, i had to take progesterone supplements the first trimester, i had a bleeding previa that bled FOUR times, was on bedrest 4 times, was admitted to the hospital at 32w5d, and had DS the next day.

not only has she commented on how easy my pregnancy was more than once, she also has said a number of times how great it was that DS was in the NICU. you know, because i got a lot of sleep that way. a lot of sleep in between pumping every 3 freaking hours!

it takes everything i have not to kick that lady in the head sometimes.....

borc0080

Wow, compared to you ladies I did have an easy pregnancy!  Well, minus the scary bleeding episodes, the horrible swelling, and nasty old pre-e.

DH's boss came to see DD at the hospital and made some sort of comment about how the upside of DD being in the NICU was that we get to sleep at night for a while.  I think it made him uncomfortable when I pointed out that DH got to sleep, but I was up every 3 hours to pump.

lemen99

All of you had a difficult pregnancy!!

I had it easy (well, until he was born) :-)

Denesdia

I would like to chime in to add that I have gotten the "You must've had a pretty easy labor since she was so small."  I just want to say, please shove this 1 liter bottle inside yourself, and then push it back out without medication after a week in the hospital on Magnesium, tipped backwards in a hospital bed.  I wish people could keep their thoughts private sometimes. 

lemen99

Denesdia:

I would like to chime in to add that I have gotten the "You must've had a pretty easy labor since she was so small."  I just want to say, please shove this 1 liter bottle inside yourself, and then push it back out without medication after a week in the hospital on Magnesium, tipped backwards in a hospital bed.  I wish people could keep their thoughts private sometimes. 

agreed.

upside down + mag = hell!

kamcfarlane

Denesdia:

I would like to chime in to add that I have gotten the "You must've had a pretty easy labor since she was so small."  I just want to say, please shove this 1 liter bottle inside yourself, and then push it back out without medication after a week in the hospital on Magnesium, tipped backwards in a hospital bed.  I wish people could keep their thoughts private sometimes. 

i got that too! from a friend though, not MIL! um, i had a c-section. i'm pretty darn sure that the size of the baby doesn't really matter in that case....

i can't even imagine the magnesium - you ladies are amazing!

mustangcutie

I think I probably would have lost it right there and DH would have had to hold me back.  I just don't think some people "think" when they talk.  Don't even get me stated on the poor people who complain about carrying their LO past 39 weeks and just want to have IT already ....aaarrg!  I would have much rather carried my LO 39 weeks rather than deal with pre-e  --- so NOT easy!!!

lemen99

kamcfarlane:

not only has she commented on how easy my pregnancy was more than once, she also has said a number of times how great it was that DS was in the NICU. you know, because i got a lot of sleep that way. a lot of sleep in between pumping every 3 freaking hours!

I got this a lot!!!  So many people think you're living it up - getting your sleep and all.  Riiiiight.

ShanaNChris

::Also chiming in::

it seems like everyone I have known has either had IF issues, a difficult pregnancy, a difficult or early delivery, or PPD - it seems no one gets it easy anymore...

but I have even heard my own sister make comments to me (whom I am extremely close to and would consider my BF), like, "at least you didn't have to go 41 weeks like me...being overdue is so hard"...I never say anything bc she had a horrible pregnancy too that included 6 months of bedrest bc of Hypermesis, it was tough to watch. But in my head I always think...I don't know how hard it would be to go an extra week, but I can gurantee her it is much easier to go home from the hospital with your LO in your arms and not really have to worry about much the first year, except when your going to start solids - I never say that though....I know she doesn't get it.

Ali05

Seriously? People need a filter! ::rolling eyes:: I ve heard SEVERAL times about how great it must have been to get caught up on sleep while Kevin was in the NICU...that "oh your scar must be so small! You're lucky". Hmmmm you just have to ignore stupid!