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Ugh. Christmas Advice Question (Long!)
For the past few years, I have worked for my father and stepmother.
My brother and one of my sisters (brother works for them too) haven't had a personal relationship with them for a long time because of personal conflicts.
After a long-time coming, I confronted my father about his wife's manipulation, lying, potential bipolarism, etc.
It didn't go well, as expected, and basically he said, "What do you want me to do about it?"
I explained to him that I could no longer work in the office with her and so I would be leaving.
He then offered me a part-time, work from home position which I accepted and have been doing for several months.
Because I brought up these problems, however, we have had a major falling out. Before I left working in the office, she confronted me in front of him and basically put me in the position of openly declaring, to her, my distaste, for her.
My Dad and I talk on the phone occasionally when it's work related but probably only once a month. He has never asked about the pregnancy, the baby, or anything. We didn't call each other on Thanksgiving and see each other once a month when I go into the office.
Finally, to my question...
For Christmas, I am making breakfast goodie baskets and was going to make one for him as he is my boss and though I won't be buying him a "Dear Dad" gift, I still think it's in my best interest to give him a gift.
How to address the card? If I address the card "Dear Dad, Merry Christmas" only - she will have a *** fit and tell him how mean I am for having only addressed him, etc. If I address both of them, I am being an outright hypocrite because what her card really should read is "Dear Gail, Hope you get hit by a bus."
What to do?
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Re: Ugh. Christmas Advice Question (Long!)
I say send it to both of them. Like you said, you can't really just send it to him.
You are not a hypocrite. You are just choosing your battles.
By the way, this situation SUCKS! Sorry you have to deal with it.
Right but she still has the power of the you-know-what and could probably get me fired if she tried hard enough so in spite of my hatred, I try to steer clear or anything that's going to set her off. (i.e. breathing incorrectly)
Awesome idea!! Thanks!
Thanks. It sucks having shitty parents. Once you get over the guilt of not giving a *** about them, it gets better though. Very inspirational as to how I won't treat Jackson.
It will still be a nice gesture and there is no drama...
I agree with the "Merry Christmas" idea.
I have a sh!tty stepmom, too.
I sent my dad a baby shower invite and will be sending him birth announcements addressed only to him. They live out of state, though, so there's a little less drama
There's always some drama, it seems. They are aware (I swear, she has spies) of the baby shower but neither were invited. He has never asked about the baby so why would he want to spend two hours pretending to be interested, surrounded by people that actually are.
We'll call
There's always some drama, it seems. They are aware (I swear, she has spies) of the baby shower but neither were invited. He has never asked about the baby so why would he want to spend two hours pretending to be interested, surrounded by people that actually are.
We'll call when
There's always some drama, it seems. They are aware (I swear, she has spies) of the baby shower but neither were invited. He has never asked about the baby so why would he want to spend two hours pretending to be interested, surrounded by people that actually are.
We'll call when I go into labor but only to let him know so that my brother can get off of work that next day (if needed) since he (brother) will be in the room with us.