I remember reading somewhere along the way about doing shifts at night so that each parent can get a few hours of uninterrupted sleep at a time. Of course, now I can't remember or find where I read about that. So, if you and your DH did shifts at night, how did it work and what was your timing? Were you bf-ing? pumping? formula?
Thanks so much!
Re: MoMs...did you and your DH sleep in shifts in the beginning?
DH and I each took a baby - early on they were both up every 3 hours almost on the dot- so we'd both be up feeding them at the same time. I was too sore to do it all on my own... but now and then DH would do them both on his own - he wanted me to rest and heal.
our boys STTN at 8 weeks - so it wasn't THAT long that we had to deal with night time feedings - the first 4 weeks DH was off of work so that helped - and that was when they ate 3x's at night. Around 5w they started to stretch it out to 2x's a night... then by 8w none.
I was pumping then but we FF at night.
When ours were first born we both got up and we each took one (I was pumping exclusively for them) so we each would feed someeone and then I would pump and we would all go back to sleep and do it all again in a couple hours.
As they got older and the sessions between pumping increased we started doing shifts. I would go to bed when they went or shortly thereafter. We started bedtime at 7pm when we first got home from the hospital. I would sleep from 8-2 getting up to pump when needed. Dh would take them if they woke up from 8-2 and then I would take them from 2am on so he could sleep before work. Dh is a night owl so this worked well for us and we each got sleep which was great.
Different schedules work for different people, so I'd play around with what works for your family. For us, we slept in shifts.
DH works relatively long days (leaves for work at 6am and gets home between 6-7), so I wanted to make sure he was getting some continuous sleep - and I wanted some for myself.
Basically, what we'd do is I'd give him the girls around 7pm, I'd get a bite to eat and then go to bed until midnight. DH would be in charge of the girls from 7 pm until midnight. They fed at 9 pm and on most nights, be asleep at 10 pm. So DH would then sleep from 10pm until midnight in their room (we had a futon set up in there) and then come to bed. I'd get up and feed the girls at midnight and 3 am (I also pumped after each feeding session). Then for the 6 am feeding, we'd often do it together before DH went into work. Although sometimes DH would do it alone if I had a particularly rough night and sometimes I'd do it alone if DH had to get into work early.
We took the philosophy of every man for himself when we were on our sleeping shifts. The person who was tending to the babies slept in their room. The person who was sleeping, slept in our bedroom with the fan running, so that they couldn't hear the crying and would get good quality sleep.
We did this for the first 2 months or so. It's major drawback is that you don't see each other - but at that point we were in survival mode anyway. By 2.5 months, I had one baby STTN and my other was getting up 1-3 times a night. At that point, I generally just handled the night wakings, and DH would get up early with the girls on the weekends, so that I could sleep in.
Best of luck with whatever system you develop!
We did shifts in the beginning. I would sleep 9:00pm to about 2:00am and my DH would have the babies. I wish I could say that it worked great for us but I had a hard time going to sleep even though I was so tired. I think it was my hormones and my stress/need for control (that has subsided a little thankfullly)
I would then be awake from 2:00am until 8:00am when my MIL came over from 8:00am until 12:00. That is when i got the majority of my sleep.
When I went back to work at 10 weeks we each took a baby. If your baby slept then you slept.
I thought for sure we would sleep in shifts, but it just never worked out...feeding/changing/burping 2 babies is not easy to do...dh had to go back to work pretty much the day after I had them since he had just started a new job....so the way we did it was we took turns getting up to get them...one of us (usually DH) would bring the babies in from their room (we put them in their cribs from the beginning) after changing them while I got the bottles ready (we always did formula on the overnight, even when I was bfing the first month...) then we would prop the babies in their boppies and dh would "dream hold" the bottles while I made sure they ate and got burped and got them back to bed...
by 6-7 weeks they were eating at 10pm, 2pm, and 6am usually...so we were down to only 1 real "overnight" feeding...and I don't remember much at all from the first 6 weeks...I think they were eating at 9, 12, 3, 6...good luck...whatever you decide to do will work...and it doesn't last forever!
My DH and I never had shifts- my mother was here for the two weeks (except weekends since DH is off). She helped me out and we had them on the same eating schedule by the end of it, my DH did not take any time-off as he wouldn't of gotten paid for it, but he helps out in the evenings and weekends with burping/changing diapers, etc...
Since I was/am nursing there is not much he could of done to help and he works during the week so he needed his rest.
After my mother left I attempted to do it on my own and have been since and the babies have been sleeping thru the night for a month or so, so there is no need for me to get up other than to have to put a soother in and so forth...
We did not sleep in shifts. So I am no help to you with that.
I EBF the boys from the moment they were born and in did not want to supplement with formula until later. In addition I had no time to pump, mostly because in addition to the boys I also had a 20 month old DD running around.
My DH & I talked about this and came to agreement that he would be responsible for DD at night. She still didn't/doesn't at almost 3 years old STTN.
I am not a heavy sleeper to begin with and would have heard the babies fussying and crying and would have gotten up to see what was happening.
So it just made sense for us to do it this way. I felt that at least 1 parent had to be awake and on their toes for our DD.
Or course once DH went back to work after 2 weeks it was really really hard to only have maybe 1 - 2 hours of sleep a night!