so my wonderful friend has told me right from the get go, she wants to throw us the baby shower for my friends and DH's family (I have no family in the US) so since my redneck IL's didn't respond to her emails and or voice mails, we decided to give them good old fashioned written invites. She gave them to me to give to them on Thanksgiving, with a spare.. I'm totally hormonal but really upset that she hasn't put on there where we are registered! I just know DH's family and they have a total different life style to ours, with little money, if they are going to get us gifts, I really would prefer they purchase off the registry and not waste their $ on crap they would use and we wouldn't.. I have tons of items on our registry starting at $1.70 to $16 that would be really appreciated if they want to buy for us..
How do I tell my hostess in a nice way she didn't put this on there and if she could let my IL's know where we are registered at so if they do buy us things, it will be what we need?
TIA!!
Re: your advise please
You could have your hostess contact your parents to see if they got their invitation.... and in the same phone call she could mention your registry. Not everyone will buy from the registry, even when they know about it, but it certainly is a way to guide them and give ideas. If you look at any invitation website you will see on their samples that they list where the mother to be is registered. In your case it's a bit tough since the invites are already delivered. Good luck
Your hostess knows her etiquette - it is never appropriate, regardless of the occasion, to force gift preferences on potential attendees. If anyone wants to know they'll ask when they RSVP, or spend literally 30 seconds to ask you or track it down online.
If they're not willing to invest that tiny amount of time, they really don't want to know. And guests knowing your preferences does not, in any way, mean they necessarily choose to shop off of your list.
This... and have DH mention it to your MIL.
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yes I handed them to my IL's but they were in sealed envelopes.. I didn't know what they read so that is why I didn't tell them at that time and make a point of where we were registered.. I have not ever seen a baby shower invite that didn't reference where the registry is at.. so while yes, that would've been the easiest thing, I hadn't seen the actual invite till I looked at the spare one the following day.
THIS!!!
Please, don't say anything to anybody, your in-laws or your hostess. It will be a pain, but the truly polite thing to do is to just return everything they get you that you can't use and then use the money to get stuff off of your registry yourself.
(PS My friend did put my registry on the invites, sigh, but honestly, only a few people actually used it!)
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